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This weeks grief


I went in to get a quick med check with one of my drs and the nurse was telling me about her asking her husband to sleep in and I completely lost it. I started crying and she had no idea why. So again I started to tell my story of my husband passing. Then came the questions, how, when, what did you do about it.

How many people lost loved ones for other reasons than why they were in the hospital to begin with?

How many were , as I was , told there is nothing anyone can do because they were there for surgery or cancer or both? The reason my husband died in the Maine Medical Hospital in Portland Maine was not because of his surgery or because of the cancer we they removed in the surgery , no it was because when things went south they didn’t call his doctor in as instructed so in a matter of hours he bleed in to his stomach so much that his heart stopped. When requesting his medical files the dr wrote on a sticky note that he was not called in. I truly believe he could have saved him but because they just say a complication of surgery due to cancer, I can do nothing.

This week, I started out ok, then it all went to hell as the rush of emotions and the feeling of drowning came back.

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Leave, Stay


All I can do is keep breathing

I cant tbreath with out you

I know I have to let you go

I need you still

My heart may heal someday

My soul hurts when yours is not here

You where the lobe of my life

I love you more than life

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Angry


I’m angry people keep telling me my husband is watching me,

I don’t believe it.

I’m angry because he’s in the box on my stand.

His urn is a box for us both

I’m angry he’s gone

I’m angry he got cancer

A rare kind for 70 year old men but he was 48

I’m angry I have to bring up this boy alone.

Im angry at him for leaving us even though I know it was not his choice.

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It’s been a year


It’s been a year and a month since my love passed and I finally gave in and asked for help last week. I miss my husband like I would miss an arm or leg .

I got custody of the kid and his mother drank herself to death, making sure to tell him it was his fault, now’s he is legally mine not just a sep son. My boys treated him like it was a party. lol

I didn’t know how to pay any of the bills, I didn’t have any idea what we had for bills or what we had for investments.

I have been on the couch for a year and realized it was time to get up. I have an appointment with a grief therapist and got a new pill to take, (another is not a problem any more! )

I am starting to wake up.