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Trauma to his children


My husband has an ex who is an alcoholic, has been in and out of the hospital because of it and was told not to drink at all. Of course she started again. We got a call from her family about it , she called her boyfriend drunk and driving, he called them and they called us. After talking to them that’s when his 12 year old said mom was drinking again. He told what he knew and we decided we could not let him go back there. What if they found her dead? Not to mention the drinking and driving!! The trauma would be unreal! He also has a 15 year old who is I really believe autistic, lots of other people have said the same but when it is mentioned to his mother she freaks out and says no he’s not doing that testing and usually stops going to that dr. The 15 year old is all about momma and will not leave her side at all, hates dad and I and just repeats everything momma says. I almost think he would kill himself if he found her dead. She uses his ADHD as a crutch and blames the other son, who is also ADHD for everything so he will end up resenting his brother. We talk about all this with him , he is in all the gifted and talented at school and really is perceptive.

So mom has so far tried, guilt, bribery, “the you don’t love me “, thing , has tried to get him out of our house and into her truck and he just keeps telling her he will come home when she gets help.

She won’t, she denies it all and has convinced herself all she believes is true and we have lied about everything turning her child against her.

His grandmother called him and as usual puts it all on him and his brother. Told him to go home and said to just call if something happens!!! Oh ok so let the kids deal with her drinking, let the kids be the ones to find her dead , what is wrong with these people!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!

Seriously!!! I am just beside myself, as it is I can only try to save one from the trauma and abuse , although the grandmother says they should deal with this together so they can support each other. ? I don’t even know if any of this will hold up in court for temp custody. I don’t know what to do. She won’t admit she has a problem, the only proof we have is from the 12 year old testimony and I just don’t know what to do to help the 15 year old!!!!

Anyone have any advice??????????

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Disappointed in humanity


I am one of the “high risk” people out there and I am so disappointed in the amount of people still out doing whatever they want. I have not left my property in weeks now and it is mostly because of inconsiderate people. The traffic on my road has not slowed, the schools are the only change it seems around us. My husband is an essential so is still working and thankfully does not come in contact with many people. We have hand sanitizer that he uses before he even comes in the house and the packages and mail all stay out on the porch for 3 days before I open anything. He will throw away whatever is junk instead of even bringing it in and takes some things out of the amazon boxes.

I have never been afraid to die but I also have never had all I ever dreamed for before. I think the thing bothering me the most, I was depressed!!!! What?!?!? I am only slightly doing things differently, I never left my house anyway!!!! Maybe once or twice in a good week and it was either just to drive or it was with my husband shopping. Soooooo, I don’t get it but, even though my life did not change a lot it effected me a lot. Oh how the emotions and brain works!!!

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High Risk


People are just being crazy , buying out toilet paper? I mean, really??? Yup, that is what the virus is like here in Maine. I live in a country area out side a small city, about an hour drive to a major city. As of this being written we had 52 confirmed cases of the Coronavirus in the state. I never went out much so staying home is easy for me but my husband works for the railroad, so he has to work to make sure things people need get to where they are needed.

I am a high Risk with my autoimmune so every time he leaves the house we worry about when he gets home. The railroad is not going to inform the rest of the guys if one of them gets sick even though a lot of the guys have high risk wives, the Union is working on that but I don’t see it happening. The majority of guys are carrying Lysol wipes with them to wipe down the controls before their shifts. We have wipes in every room so he comes in the back door using a Lysol wipe to open and close the doors and goes directly into the bathroom which is right next to the black door, takes off his clothes and puts them in a bag and takes a shower. Then puts the clothes in the laundry.

I feel guilty that my family is suffering more from this because of me, my son can’t go to his girlfriends house, she has lots of siblings and is still going to the gym as I write this. I know he is mad and says she knows what she is doing but, it would only take that one missed spot or something.

I don’t know if it’s enough or if it’s too much? I know I am scared, I know the thought of leaving my husband and my sons all with out me worries and scares me. I have known for over 20 years that this one little pill is what kept me alive. I know at one point I though God was cruel giving me something that I could not just sleep for days with, that I had to get up and face the world long enough to eat and take my pills, which means I’m awake now. This is on a whole new level now though, I could die if I leave my house and come across someone sick or something else that has germs from the sick on it. I try to keep updated with real information and just hope it blows over very soon!

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‘Overcorrecting’ Is The Self-Sabotaging Behavior That Keeps Ambitious Women Stuck


‘Overcorrecting’ Is The Self-Sabotaging Behavior That Keeps Ambitious Women Stuck

‘Overcorrecting’ Is The Self-Sabotaging Behavior That Keeps Ambitious Women Stuck
— Read on thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2020/03/overcorrecting-is-the-self-sabotaging-behavior-that-keeps-ambitious-women-stuck/

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Kitchen


Bottom cabinets are done! Finally.
Took me awhile to decide on paint color and technique
Love the difference in the just painted to final finished door!
Going to go with the shades of grey for the top cabinets.

Couldn’t decide on handles and pulls for the longest time but have chosen a leaf design, it doesn’t come in the oiled bronze but my husband knows a place that can change them for us.

Can’t wait to have it all finished, although I am very nervous about my blue being more, in your face then I wanted it to be. I am hoping with the house renovations opening up the kitchen more and adding the double glass doors, all the natural sunshine will dull that effect and it will turn out ok. Designing and decorating my own house is not very hard but nerve racking at the same time, you never know how your designs will actually turn out! It doesn’t have one style, it’s not just rustic farmhouse or country farmhouse, I guess you could say it is a country cottage rustic farmhouse? Lol I guess with all the renovations it’s not going to be a 1940 built house anymore but we are keeping the hardwood floors and nice wood wainscoting in the dining room. I guess that is the only room that will still be from the original house!, course they put 3 additions on themselves so really, what even was the original house!???

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4 Quick and EASY Tips On How-To Become The Person Of Your Dreams


4 Quick and EASY Tips On How-To Become The Person Of Your Dreams

4 Quick and EASY Tips On How-To Become The Person Of Your Dreams


— Read on freeplrarticles.biz/4-quick-and-easy-tips-on-how-to-become-the-person-of-your-dreams/

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Help the kids with postcards!!


My beautiful little niece lives in Avon Connecticut and her class is doing a project to see if they can collect postcards from around the world!! Anyone willing to send a postcard from home would be majorly appreciated and shared on my page. Used ones can just be written on or new is good as well. Apparently this has been a month going and they have only a few from other states so I’m calling for help!!!

Send the to Tracey Bernier

165 River rd Benton Maine 04901

And I will forward them to my niece!!!

One small thing will help a child and classmates accomplish a great project!!!!

Thank you 🙏

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Free MONEY!!!!!!


I have had this on my desktop computer for a little while to see if just having it on would actually pay like they claim it does, just got my first $25. pay out!! Now, I have not checked my install date but I believe it is $5 a device per month and that is Not answering surveys and Not even opening any email. Just to sit here on my computer. It has not slowed it down and I have not had any problems. Its just good old FREE MONEY!!!!!!! check it out and see it for yourself!!        https://www.surveysavvy.com/?m=6605030

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I guess it’s a start???


I took my son to an appointment and decided while he was in to take the dog for a walk. My ears are frozen but I am sweating. I walked 30 min! 3,000 steps. Now considering I am supposed to be pacing myself, I think it is a good start. I bring him once a week but it won’t be 28 degrees and no wind on every Tuesday especially since this is the middle of winter in Maine! But , I still feel pretty good about it!!

Just need to try to stretch next time!!!

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Meaningful vs Happy


Do you have a meaningful life or a happy life?

Is there a difference, some say yes and others no.

I know I have a happy life. I have an amazing husband, great kids, house full of animals who keep me laughing and always make me feel loved when I am alone. I am hands on building the house of my dreams, as close as possible at least, and don’t have to worry about food or rent as I have in the past.

Can you have both? I struggle constantly trying to make myself better, mentally and physically. If I could have someone to tell me, how to make a small business out of my , creations, how to feel better about myself, how to be healthier and more comfortable in my own body.

Step by step, you need to do this , this and this today. Everyday. But also help me stay motivated and focused while also, building a house, being a wife, mother with responsibilities ( laundry, dishes, etc, etc,) and friend.

Do they make an app for that??

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