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Sublimation – Turning Negative Urges into Positive Actions


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By Dr. Perry, PhD


“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” ~Hans Selye

Sublimation is a subconscious psychological defense mechanism whereby we take a negative impulse and channel it into a positive behavior. This is similar to displacement (click here to refer to my earlier post on displacement) but instead of taking a negative impulse, such as aggression towards one’s boss, and displacing that negative feeling onto an innocent third party such as your husband or wife, we take the initial socially unacceptable impulse and direct it towards a positive action. We seek a positive alternative form of fulfillment for the initial destructive urge. According to Freud, the strength of the negative urge would define the strength of the positive outcome.

Our initial impulses can be subconsciously directed into a number of different areas. Here are some ways that we can engage in sublimation.

1. Anger/Emotional…

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My train conductor


I am one proud wife as my husband passed all the testing and goes off to start his training at Pan Am Railways today! His lifelong love of trains and knowledge of them payed off for him and he is now a train conductor!! He is already talking about moving up to engineer and being top of the class made his superiors pushing him to do so. Weeks of him away from home have been rough but seeing how happy he is makes it worth doing over and over. His ex wife had denied him this dream along with other multiple abusive things that killed his confidence and I am proud to have helped him restore all that. I feel like our past of both being abused helps us to appreciate each other more for just being ourselves. It was a long road for us both but well worth it to find this strong and deep of a mental and emotional bond with someone. I am very proud of him !!!!

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Are You Raising a Narcissist?


So many are

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By Dr. Perry, PhD


There is a well-known statistic that states that up to 6 percent of the US population suffers from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). My math may be slightly incorrect but that is approximately 20 million people. One out of 16 people suffers from NPD. What is extremely interesting is that only 3 percent of those over 65 years of age report having any experience with NPD compared to 10 percent of people in there 20’s. It appears that we are experiencing a substantial increase in NPD in our current society and may see a further increase in the coming years. Currently, we are not able to diagnose someone younger than 18 years of age as having NPD, as some traits that indicate NPD are common in adolescents and may be outgrown. But these statistics and research suggest that parents may be cultivating behavior and raising a  generation of…

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Policies on emergency care for animals


https://www.change.org/p/people-for-the-ethical-treatment-of-animals-peta-change-the-policies-for-emergency-care-for-animals?recruiter=687672794&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=share_petition&utm_term=autopublish

My name is Kathy Stremcha

August 1st I rushed my dog to the emergency hospital in Middleton Wisconsin. Got him in there they took an x-ray, came back told me it was bloat. I told them well fix him basically. They told me their policy is money up front before they can proceed.  No no no….I want you to get him in there please he’s my baby!

We need 3000.00 before we can proceed. I told them I can get if but he’s sleeping he’s a truck driver and he’s not answering the phone. PLEASE GET HIM IN THERE. Nope…I had to choose let him suffer,or put him to sleep. That is ridiculous he was everything to me….my constant companion( Dr.orders) I have ptsd and agoraphobia.. he was Akc registered Great Dane (blue) champion bloodlines….and they took him from me.

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Meet, Atlas !!!


A Florida rescue puppy made his way to our hearts and we just had to keep him! 9 months old and a little oddly shaped having the short legs and long torso of a Bassett hound but the head and tail of a black lab! The past couple weeks has been a fun adventure with puppy chewing and teaching and bonding and all around puppy craziness!!!! He’s been to a few homes so he has been a little hesitant to call it home but I think he’s settling in now, he loves his crate, potty trained, sits before food or treats, knows his name and out or potty and of course knows no!!! The only problem we r having is he is used to kitties that played with him and when mine come out most times he ends up chasing them back into hiding. They have sniffed each other and can all sit together with no problems, just when he wants to play they run. It’s a work in progress!!! Lol