School Morning, To get up or not to get up?

Woke up this morning and well, it is my 36 birthday. Wish I could just roll over and stay in bed, but , I can’t, I have to get up and get the kids off to school. I have a 13-year-old and an 8-year-old, both of my boys are very slow-moving in the morning, especially on MONDAY’s. They say, and by them I mean DHS or the specialist that know it all, that your child will have a better day in school and succeed in their tasks if they have a parent that gets them off to school in the morning instead of doing it themselves. So, I get up. I may not cook a big breakfast for them but they go out the door with all the right clothes and gear for the weather, books and snacks and whatever they need for a great day. My boys have good days and bad days. They both hate school, they both have discipline issues and some A’s and some F’s. My older one is ADHD combined type with ODD. He may not pass 7 grade because of math. I don’t know if I can say I would want to just sleep while they got up and got off to school themselves but, I can not help but wonder if it really makes a difference or does it just show them how to become dependant on me and not be able to get up on their own? They have come to the point of not being able to get up for any reason unless I get them up. I have to remind them of everything over and over. I just wonder if they had more responsibilities early on maybe they would be able to remember and function without me at their side always. Does it make them more mommy’s boys? Sometimes I wonder if the “specialist” actually know it all.