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Sublimation – Turning Negative Urges into Positive Actions


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“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” ~Hans Selye

Sublimation is a subconscious psychological defense mechanism whereby we take a negative impulse and channel it into a positive behavior. This is similar to displacement (click here to refer to my earlier post on displacement) but instead of taking a negative impulse, such as aggression towards one’s boss, and displacing that negative feeling onto an innocent third party such as your husband or wife, we take the initial socially unacceptable impulse and direct it towards a positive action. We seek a positive alternative form of fulfillment for the initial destructive urge. According to Freud, the strength of the negative urge would define the strength of the positive outcome.

Our initial impulses can be subconsciously directed into a number of different areas. Here are some ways that we can engage in sublimation.

1. Anger/Emotional…

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My train conductor


I am one proud wife as my husband passed all the testing and goes off to start his training at Pan Am Railways today! His lifelong love of trains and knowledge of them payed off for him and he is now a train conductor!! He is already talking about moving up to engineer and being top of the class made his superiors pushing him to do so. Weeks of him away from home have been rough but seeing how happy he is makes it worth doing over and over. His ex wife had denied him this dream along with other multiple abusive things that killed his confidence and I am proud to have helped him restore all that. I feel like our past of both being abused helps us to appreciate each other more for just being ourselves. It was a long road for us both but well worth it to find this strong and deep of a mental and emotional bond with someone. I am very proud of him !!!!

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