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Never , ever, ever!!!


Never, ever, until you are no longer paying, throw away receipts that have to do with child support payments!!!!!!!!!

If your ex fills out papers claiming you have not paid in a year, it is up to you to prove them wrong. You need to have a receipt, direct deposit slip, something to prove at least eight out of twelve for anyone to even consider you are telling the truth. ( guilty till proven innocent) then , the ex can just say, oops, and that’s it. No penalty for lying, no, well maybe we will forget a week of owed payments, nope, nothing! Maybe she decided last minute it looked stupid complaining about three weeks behind.

It has been nothing but vindictive bs with this woman!!! But you all know how that works, when u leave a narcissist and find someone else quickly and become happy, that’s not allowed!!!!

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Narcissist, psychopath, sociopath,


Both lie to the kids, both treated the men like crap, both are mentally and emotionally abusive, they are both evasive, manipulative and seem to have all the power they think they have.

I can’t think of another way to stress myself, frustrate and mentally exhaust myself then to have to deal with both of these woman on a daily bases!

David’s ex will try to only say or do anything when I am not around cause she knows I stand right up to her and give it all back. She has no concerns for her boys hearing anything cause she always seems to be able to make it our fault somehow.

When we had just moved and went to get the boys once , she was drunk and came over to the car to complain he wasn’t putting the child support direct deposit anymore, she said to him, “look at you, you are all, unkept,!” I popped my head up above the car on my side to be eye-level with her and told her that she didn’t need to worry how he looked , and I said,” I like his hair grown out like that and told him he should keep it that way. ” She replied in a very snooty way , with her hand going from her waist up into the air and with her son standing next to her, “Well why don’t you just go fuck him then!” Then after some days later we were told by the little one that mom had told them it was all because she had always wanted him to grow his hair out for her but he had always said no.

Now they have had the huge task of keeping her out of the alcohol and we can do nothing? They are old enough to call for help if they think they will need it. That was the response given to us my the state. So mental and emotional abuse are not actually considered a problem in the state of Maine.

My grandkids have seemed to disappear, I called the state and left a message that my grandsons school has not seen him in two weeks. We shall see how that turns out.

I have a great relationship with my husband, a dream like intensely easy, relaxed, open and perfect for us relationship. I have great boys, a new house that we are fixing into our dream home, so many good things going for the first time in my life but these two thorns in my side still manage to keep me awake at night, give me horrible thoughts of these kids futures and drain me.

I have through the years kept journals, diary or just a reminder note in my devices on stupid things my grandkids mother has done and now that I want them, now that it is time to start fighting, I can’t find any of them! I have a new computer, they must be there, somewhere.

David filed a motion to modify for his child support even tho since we did that his pay has gone back up , we are still pushing for all the other things we requested as well.

To have the kids every other week during the summer, to have her reminded she is to include and consult with him on things that concern the boys health and welfare in any way, to stop trying to turn them against him and , or, us! Some other things that she had a total fit over, he also has a very good medical plan that would save her a lot of out of pocket but has refused to allow him to put the boys on.

Since they made the order, he has a new job, a house with a mortgage and a disabled wife with two dependents. Normally a new wife and step kids are not part of the consideration but since I have no income we are. Normally he would be told it was his problem he has a mortgage now not his kids but I think considering my kids deserve to have a good life as well it will not be the same. We are now waiting for the court date.

I think hate is a strong word that I very rarely use but I really think I hate both of those people.

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Burnt out


It is one stupid idea after another, Im trying constantly to prove this and that are wrong, wondering how can they not see the damage they are putting on them?

Since David ant I got together his social path ex wife has done everything possible to turn those two boys against him. She started it the day they were born. The marriage was a sham, two years in he had his own room but she was a closet drunk so he stayed for them. Now he realizes how bad that was and her drinking has caught up to her. The drs said no more drinking at all. She is an alcoholic and coming home to her two kids. They want to help mom of course, so they are told to break any alcohol they see her with. Don’t let her drink. So now these two young boys are given the responsibility of keeping an alcoholic away from alcohol!

If anything goes wrong they will blame themselves! REALLY!!!!

In the same sentence nana says, they are all that matters, if she wants to drink let her it will be her fault not mine and they asked what they could do to help,

Then we have the grandkids stupid mother who has decided her new man is now the kids daddy, my grandson has been out of school for a week and when I try to ask I am told not to call back or she will put a pfa on me! My stepson is in jail so she is doing whatever she wants with those kids and along with her mother who helped her rob me a couple years ago trusting type and her bipolar self who knows what is going on. She has been a big balls of lies and more lies since day one, so many she will totally forget and not have a clue what I am talking about but when I sent her a screenshot of her saying it, I am the bad guy, I am the one whose is denied the kids for months.

Has the world always been filled with so many narcissistic parents?

Is that how the world got like this is it just keeps going generation after generation??

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I hate my grandbabies mother


Hate is a very strong word that I do not use lightly but dealing with her for the past 5 years has truly been horrifying. To say she is a narcissistic person would be putting it lightly. Short version, she is a horrible mother, and I could go on and on about all the things we have had to go through with her. My step son is spineless and does not stand up to her at all even though she has got married, every guy she has been with is the new daddy and at this point he is not even aloud around them, to even talk to them or anything. He just takes it. He will loose them.

She hates how much they love me , she is so mentally and emotionally abusive to them and uses them over everyone to get what she wants. They were here with us Friday to Sunday in which time they went outside to play and my grandson playing with his skateboard, crashed. He was scared more than anything and calmed down very quickly with a skinned knee, scratch on his neck going to his shoulder and a fat lip. She flipped out and in the argument sent a picture of his knee and it was way worse than it had been here. No surprise, her mom had them but she didn’t say anything so it all went on me. I have bent over backwards for her, she robbed me of almost 700$ plus the money I gave to them for everything , supporting them for months at a time, it just goes on but once again it is I will never see them again, loose her number, on and on and on. I get so stressed and upset it usually makes me sick. I know I could not handle raising them on my own but have thought of taking them for years. Her husband is an actual good guy to them so it has helped them out a lot having him around but now I am stuck once again with decisions, wait till she needs something and calls, try to lie and smooth my way back in or just spend tons of money going for grandparents rights.

The worst thing about it all is what she is doing to them .

And, David’s ex wife is just as bad but in different ways. One is bad enough, but two!!!

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Advice?


I’m so torn up inside, I have been trying not to cry consistently, part of me says fine if that’s the way he wants it then let it be.

The other part says no, u don’t get to call me mom just when u want to, either I am or I am not.

I haven’t talked to him, he may have said not to tell me anything

Or, she’s doing it because she is enjoying the attention and she is and has only seen the good side.

I’m the one that got nasty messages from angry people who’s car he stole.

I’m torn, what do I do???

(For full story see previous post, y am I so bothered?)

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Why is this bothering me so much??


quick summary, 8 years ago I found my ex step son on Facebook, invited him to meet his brother and then into our home and back to my heart. He called me mom, his kids call me Grammie, I knew how horribly he had been raised and how hard his life had been for him. Doing what I could for him and trying to help him was really hard, his narcissistic ways made it impossible to get him to see things different. He’s been in and out of trouble, and was arrested again last Friday for stealing cars. The part that is bothering me is the woman who he had been staying with for the past idk, 6 months is calling him her son. She has known him since birth, but I don’t know how much of his life she has been in, she has been the one in contact with the law since he was living with her and they all think she is mom, I told her I was upset finding out about him almost 24 hours after and not by her,that I felt pushed to the sidelines and that it bothered me she was calling him son, but it didn’t matter even if she said sorry and said it wasn’t like that but then still kept me in the dark about what she knew and then on Facebook she is posting how much she misses him and it’s all her son…..

this is not supposed to be about me, I have no legal right to call him son, so why is it bothering me so much that she is?

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Puppy love!


My son is 15 and has his first real girlfriend, I am terrified!! He is extremely sensitive and when something happens it will be like a wall hitting him. I could hope they r a rarity and stay together forever but, one in a million there! It is the one month anniversary and he wanted to get her something, he got all these and brought them home and asked me to put the flowers into a bouquet for him , I had a vase I could use so I came up with this. I am bringing it to his school for him at lunch time but the school said it has to stay in the office till she leaves school. He will have to bring her to see it at the office. It’s cute and sweet and I’m proud of him!! 🤗🤗

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My train conductor


I am one proud wife as my husband passed all the testing and goes off to start his training at Pan Am Railways today! His lifelong love of trains and knowledge of them payed off for him and he is now a train conductor!! He is already talking about moving up to engineer and being top of the class made his superiors pushing him to do so. Weeks of him away from home have been rough but seeing how happy he is makes it worth doing over and over. His ex wife had denied him this dream along with other multiple abusive things that killed his confidence and I am proud to have helped him restore all that. I feel like our past of both being abused helps us to appreciate each other more for just being ourselves. It was a long road for us both but well worth it to find this strong and deep of a mental and emotional bond with someone. I am very proud of him !!!!

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Policies on emergency care for animals


https://www.change.org/p/people-for-the-ethical-treatment-of-animals-peta-change-the-policies-for-emergency-care-for-animals?recruiter=687672794&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=share_petition&utm_term=autopublish

My name is Kathy Stremcha

August 1st I rushed my dog to the emergency hospital in Middleton Wisconsin. Got him in there they took an x-ray, came back told me it was bloat. I told them well fix him basically. They told me their policy is money up front before they can proceed.  No no no….I want you to get him in there please he’s my baby!

We need 3000.00 before we can proceed. I told them I can get if but he’s sleeping he’s a truck driver and he’s not answering the phone. PLEASE GET HIM IN THERE. Nope…I had to choose let him suffer,or put him to sleep. That is ridiculous he was everything to me….my constant companion( Dr.orders) I have ptsd and agoraphobia.. he was Akc registered Great Dane (blue) champion bloodlines….and they took him from me.

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Meet, Atlas !!!


A Florida rescue puppy made his way to our hearts and we just had to keep him! 9 months old and a little oddly shaped having the short legs and long torso of a Bassett hound but the head and tail of a black lab! The past couple weeks has been a fun adventure with puppy chewing and teaching and bonding and all around puppy craziness!!!! He’s been to a few homes so he has been a little hesitant to call it home but I think he’s settling in now, he loves his crate, potty trained, sits before food or treats, knows his name and out or potty and of course knows no!!! The only problem we r having is he is used to kitties that played with him and when mine come out most times he ends up chasing them back into hiding. They have sniffed each other and can all sit together with no problems, just when he wants to play they run. It’s a work in progress!!! Lol