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Psychological Flexibility – What Is It and How To Increase It?


Maybe you’ve noticed that some people have more friends, better interpersonal relationships at all levels, and they’re more at peace with themselves.…

Psychological Flexibility – What Is It and How To Increase It?
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Lazy parenting or ADHD


I know the main symptoms are ,

Inattentively

Hyperactivity

Impulsively

When my step son first came to live here it was a learning curve for us all but there were so many things he should have known and didn’t, at least in my opinion, like,

Please, thank you, excuse me or your welcome,

He came across rude most of the time, he didn’t have any consideration, empathy, or any manners. At first it was all put on his, ADHD, but I already raised one son with ADHD and did not agree, his mother had taught him that it was a crutch.

Now he has been here 6 months, he has changed significantly enough that his grandmother noticed when he went to visit. He said “please” and “thank you”, he didn’t interrupt, he no longer eats like an animal making a total mess, but most importantly he wasn’t so rude all the time. At least half of his ADHD symptoms had changed, his hyperactivity had been changing already and was completely gone by now and his impulse control was better. If it wasn’t for the fact that he can’t remember anything at all , then I wouldn’t think he even had ADHD.

I guess the fact that he can play a new game on his PlayStation for hours, completely focused on the game and then do it all over again the next day doesn’t count, but shouldn’t it? He is an A student all around, completes and passes in his work on time every time.

If he didn’t say the medication helped him concentrate and complete his school work, I would not think he needed it at all. It makes you think though, how many kids out there have been diagnosed with ADD when it’s just a case of lazy parents?

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Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish


These free breast cancer awareness SVG files were a lot of fun to design and create. Now I get to share them with you! For Breast Cancer Awareness …

Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish
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2 months????


I had someone tell me the beginning of August that their dog was sick, acting funny and not eating. We went through checking this and that but my final advice was to take him to the vet.

Yesterday I talked to them again and they said he died! I was surprised and of course asked how? They said they had just made an appointment for the vets! It was some kind of infection they said.

Two months that poor dog was sick. I mean did he suffer? Was he in pain? How could they neglect him that long like that? It broke my heart to hear that. Now my thought was to call someone for they still have 5 other dogs! I don’t think there is anyone though. We don’t have animal control here. I’m conflicted. What do you think???

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Evil Step-Mother???


There is nothing more frustrating than a narcissistic alcoholic who will not admit to anything, take blame for anything, or even try to cooperate.

She just says “you are nothing but an evil step- mother, you don’t know anything and I feel bad for my son that he has to live with you. “

Well, ok. We took the boy, he is 13 and finally opened up to us that she would hit him when she got drunk. We knew she was mentally and emotionally abusive but that’s not enough for the courts to do anything. This last time they moved him to live with us, no visiting unless he wants to, he only has to talk to her once a week for an hour, or twice for half hour, etc, etc.

I have manipulated him, I abuse him, I force him to do this and that, tell him what to say and not say to his mother, it just goes on and on.

My question is how long do we have to deal with her constant abuse and slander before we can say it’s enough?

She literally can convince herself things did not happen or that we did them not her? There is no reasoning with her, there is no casual conversations, everything has to be a fight.

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Lost the kids for having bipolar ???


Some of you know my best friend is bipolar, she had years with out becoming manic and then it was one thing after another and it has been a roller coaster ride since.

She has 4 kids, all different dads. When the dad of the 3 boy died of an overdose when we did not even know he was using, she went manic. It was a slow process and took looking closely to see she was falling but I saw it. She trusted the wrong people, lost so much and blamed herself, went back to the hospital. She was in and out for months, could not get stable, then met this punk kid who manipulated her into thinking he was something he wasn’t. She got pregnant again. Baby 4 was a girl, he became abusive. I Didn’t Know!!! He stole the babies gift cards , sold things, was a junkie. I tried to kill him when I found out all this after the fact, it was wrong but, I lost it on him and would have if the hammer wasn’t taken out of my hand. I’m ashamed but will admit I did it. Ok, wait, back up. She hit the line, the fine line between love and hate, dealing with abuse and not. For the first time in the 20 years I have known her she became violent, throwing things, loosing her temper and mind. The police came, he told them to leave the kids with him, they said no way and took them. He knew he was supposed to call me , he knew I had paperwork and all the things to take the kids for the time she was in the hospital, but he was mad. They would not let him keep them, not even his one month old daughter, so he let them take them. Now it has been almost a year! The state of Maine refuses to give her kids back for their own safety. I am over the moon pissed! Her lawyer would not let me help. Dhhs has her feeling like such a failure and bad mother she hasn’t argued at all. She did everything they asked, is doing extra counseling to make better choices, but still missed her daughter growing up.

If someone with out bipolar had a break down after being in an abusive relationship for a year and the police came, took the kids to the state and said they had to do things to get them back, they would do it and get them back, but not her. Junkies’s get their kids back but not a single mother with bipolar. I don’t think it’s right, I wanted to make some noise, but she would not let me. I’m not able to do anything to help. She is still afraid if she makes noise against the state that they will take her visiting rights away.! It’s wrong. It’s prejudice. I don’t understand how the state of Maine can just do it.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I just to close to the situation to see it, should the kids be taken away????

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Oregon Deputy Caught On Video Telling Militia Members How To Get Away With Killing Somebody


For much of us, September 11 has actually become a day of remembrance and a time to unite and look after other individuals in any little way we can. …

Oregon Deputy Caught On Video Telling Militia Members How To Get Away With Killing Somebody
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