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Collection or clutter? 


I have lots of, collections…

Baskets, bottles, mickey mouse, little chairs and benches, plants, teapots, little watering cans and little gardening things, books, movies, birdhouses, windchimes, 

That’s just what I can think of from the top ofy head.Now when my house burned in 99 I just started collecting everything! now I’m trying to collect less.My baskets r hung up around my kitchen , the border going around the middle of the room has plants, baskets, watering cans type things in it. I have more to put up on one more wall. Then comes more decisions!!!!

This is my journey back, forward and back again. Kitchen 95%done

Day 4. 

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Back , forward and back again


I used to be an extreme Extrovert,  organized and in control. That changed in the last ten years. I was in a very unhappy emotionally and mentally abusive relationship that I just didn’t have the strength to change. I became totally opposite of my former self. In the past 2 years I have started to try to recover. I had decided when it effected my kids in an oblovious way that enough was enough. 

I have gotten better at going out and doing things I need to do on my own again and my kids are doing really good, so now it’s time to start to focus on my house.

These are a couple of shots of the bad spots to give u an idea on how bad it is. I am very ashamed I let it get to this point but now it’s time to get rid of it. First comes overwhemed feeling of drowning. Stress, frustrating feeling of complete how do I do this!!!!

 This is my journey from drowning in clutter and disorganization as an Introvert with times of agoraphobia to being organized,  independent and hopefully able to get back to my love of art and creating things. 

This is Day One.

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Waiting


Today’s one word prompt from the Daily Post is waiting.

Once again a word I could go on for hours about, but I will not.

We wait forever for our children to leave the nest. Then when it comes we are beside ourselves. I am at this time waiting for the bus to come get my son so he may follow his dreams. As he heads off on the bus to make his mark on the world, I feel like it was yesterday he was born, two weeks overdue and still not budging , I should have known then how stubborn he would be!!!

Pride, fear, sadness, all overwhelming me at once. My other son says he will be back to visit on thanksgiving mom, visit!!??? Thanksgiving, that’s weeks away. Wrong choice of words son.

Even though he was hardly ever home, knowing he isn’t walking in the door anytime soon makes it feel empty.

Now, I am waiting for my baby to come home , to visit.

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Letting go


My grandkids are 3 and 1 and they have really really bad parents. I have cut years off my life stressing and getting sick over trying to help. They need to let them go. They r homeless and have been more than not in these 3 years since jr was born. I tried to take them. I just can’t do it myself though. I am not mentally or physically strong enough to raise 2 Littles ones on my own. They don’t think anything is wrong. They don’t see how messed up these kids are going to b if something doesn’t change. I don’t know what to do. 

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Pain


I went to my little brothers wedding today. It was beautiful, he was great, she was perfect, they are perfect for each other. The wedding went with no problems, the reception the same.

 The moment I walked in I was uncomfortable, as guest arrived and people were greeted, I felt invisible. The ran like a little girl to my uncle’s as they arrived looking for the safety I have always received under there wings and sat with them during the ceremony so it was much better then. I hadn’t been spoken to or had gotten more than a necessity response from anyone else but my brother since arriving. I stayed to take pictures and ended up having to be in one but , I dealt. My brother said that was what I got for staying. Love that kid. At the reception I was seated with my mother, ex step father who had his other two sons with him, current step father and niece. I brought my older son with me. I wanted to sit with my uncle’s and grandmother’s but wasn’t sure if that was allowed. Most of the time I sat unspoken to, just there. My niece moved next to me at one point so I wasn’t alone. The whole family got up and danced, except me. I spoke to my older brother, the best man, nieces father, best friend to my little brother, but, he ignored me as he has for 20 years. 

I have yearned for the love of family for so long. The ache I felt inside brought constant tears to my eyes. I have had friends as family, had lonely holidays and just a very lonely life. 

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Stress and family


Most families give each other some stress, I think it’s what makes them family. When u have that irresponsible kid w a family that is coming over w his bags packed and kids in tow for 2 years now. My head.  Here I am trying to finish my dress and finish the gift and I have a 1 and 2 year old running around, constintly up my butt which I love them dearly but, I just can’t deal w them right now. There is no room at the shelter so, I have no choice. How do I not loose my temper at mom or dad while still getting my stuff done. I am not sure I can.

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Dilemma 


My life is a dilemma!  To have a good day, that’s a dilemma. To have to deal with getting my kids butt moving to get to school and not let him keep doing this. Dilemma I like saying that word, Dil lem ma. Lol. Cool.