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Letting go


My grandkids are 3 and 1 and they have really really bad parents. I have cut years off my life stressing and getting sick over trying to help. They need to let them go. They r homeless and have been more than not in these 3 years since jr was born. I tried to take them. I just can’t do it myself though. I am not mentally or physically strong enough to raise 2 Littles ones on my own. They don’t think anything is wrong. They don’t see how messed up these kids are going to b if something doesn’t change. I don’t know what to do. 

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I am a woman of many thoughts and ideas on anything creative or frugal, who loves to take pictures especially of nature and my grandkids all while I fight the good fight of illness both mental and physical. I appreciate friendly criticism and love comments!!! So, don't be shy, talk to me...

7 thoughts on “Letting go

  1. That’s a really awful situation to be in. I don’t know the details but i commend you for trying to step up. Do you have other family who could help out? Friends in the area? Could you take in your grandkids and a reliable 20 -something relative who helps with the children in exchange for rent? It’s just a thought. Brainstorming. Sometimes not being able to do something alone does not, necessarily, mean not being able to do anything at all. I hope that helps. I wish you the best.

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    1. I wish any of that was possible, I love my grandkids so much but there parents are just to immature to understand the kids come first. There is no other family, my step son has me only, my other family doesn’t consider him family. I divorced his father 15 years ago and he came into our lives about 8 years ago. Her family is as bad as being in a box. I’m sorry I’m going on, lol. I appreciate your words and thoughts, every little thought helps. Ty

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  2. That is a bad situation, Tracey. I do understand, that you are not able to manage the kids alone, but together with others, either family members or friends it would help all of you.
    If you don’t have any to share the responsibility with, you need to ask for public help, maybe not for all the time, but to help both the kids and you to stay close together. It would be sad for the kids to grow up as homeless from early age. They need stability in their lives.

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    1. Yes they do!!!! The parents just don’t understand that no matter how many times I say it. They say, it could be worse, or, they are fine just look at them they are happy. They have had me so upset I had a complete breakdown. I am still trying to think of a way but I had them 3 weeks before and I got so stressed out and sick. I’m just not mentally or physically able to take them. I am the only place they can go with them. Literally, the only place. One night here and there but these two babies have been at my place more than anywhere else added together in themselves. Sometimes I blame myself for not being strong enough. My 18 year old told me this morning he is second guessing going away to school because he’s afraid they will just take over.

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      1. I have 3 boys. 13and 18 are biological, my step son is 23 and he is the one w the kids. My 2 son’s live with me. My 18 is afraid that if he goes off to technical school that I will let the older one and the kids mother just walk all over me and take over the house, I have a hard time saying no to them. Is that what you meant?

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      2. Thank you for explaining Tracey and yes, this was what I meant.
        What is the reason, that these parents live, like they do? Free choice or? Sickness?
        I find it okay and good, that you offer to help with the kids, but you need to build yourself up to be strong enough to say no for the parents to live in your house. If they get their own place to live, you can offer to help with the kids, while they are either working or studying, just not full time.
        I haven’t lived in US, but I find it difficult to understand, that is legal to live as homeless for such long time, when you have small kids or just kids to support. Where I come from, the public would go in and take over with the kids, until the parents show, that they are able to take good care and responsibility for their kids.

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