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The Evil lives

Posted on by queentracey1

My husband exwife has been a nightmare since day one, it’s the ” he went and found his soul mate and got happy” thing. The closet drunk went and drank her liver to death, we thought she was going to die. Then the family stopped talking to us, stressing about adding two more kids to the house full time, allll the things that come with that very horrific thought, they have a cat, one of them hates us both, etc, etc,

To update, she lives. She came home from the hospital and if she can stay sober for two years then they will give her a transplant. WOW!

She has caused serious mental and emotional issues to those two boys, so part of me just thinks die already!

Then you have the boys, never taught respect, to clean up after themselves, empathy is non existent, they have been spoiled beyond imagination and still treated as much as babies as possible. The older one treated differently because he is “special” so the younger one is the one blamed for everything, and knows it.

I have such a hard time with the younger one. The older one does not visit at all. I know he needs meds for his ADHD but he takes 3 pills a day and seems to me to only get his hyperactivity under control. I get frustrated, impatient, aggravated, and plain stressed with him as it is when he is here for 3 days so living with us scares me to death! The things he does not know are the things I demanded my kids knew. How in the word do I switch my believes and parenting ?

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Salina

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On Clear out the shelter days here in Maine hubby decided I needed a new kitten. I got a dog, Atlas, he turned into a daddy’s boy, it’s been a year since I lost my beautiful Myah so he said it’s time. After a couple places we were about to leave when he started to play with this little girl. Now you need a kitty young before age of 1 to ensure the dog and cat can become friends, I insist on a female, and I wanted a white and or grey one. The shelter brought her out, 4 years old and black. I pointed out the age and the worker and my husband had a quick talk about her being fine with dogs and next thing I know we are adopting her!! Ummmmm, now wait a minute! I thought I was getting a new friend, not my husband!! I have adapted and she is friendly and crazy funny. She does ok with the dog, sometimes rubbing against him and freaking him out, other times she swats at him and hisses. Woman. Lol I guess she can stay.

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Since they were babies

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I have written this poem in different ways since my boys were born to include the times and situations. I sent this with my son to have in his apt , he knows it’s just a , makes mom feel better thing! Lol I can’t believe how fast time has gone, my youngest is 16 and 6 feet tall and my first born is getting ready to go to Med school!

I feel old!!!

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My son is becoming a man

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At 21, he has a vehicle, apartment, and is working at a hospital making 26. an hour as a technician, plus another part time job. He has gone off to college and lived in the dorms but this is actually moving out! Totally different! I cried like a baby! Lol

I made him some, Open When , cards. I printed some envelopes and glued them together and then put my notes inside. I labeled them, Open When~ you finish unpacking, after your first day at work, when you had a hard day, etc, etc.

you are only limited by your imagination and things to say! If you go to Pinterest you can find some printable stuff to help out!

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It’s a big mess

Posted on by queentracey1

I haven’t been on in a bit but I find the need to vent or ramble, whichever you prefer. I have talked a lot about my husbands ex wife, closet drunk, extreme parental alienation, and of course a narcissist. For 12 years he tried to get her family to do something about her drinking but they didn’t want to deal with it, now she has lost all liver functions. She has been in the hospital for over a week, they are being extremely quiet and secretive about the whole thing and the only reason we even know for sure it’s her liver is from her calling to talk to the son who will come here, and his comments on her eyes and skin being yellow.

Her mother told my husband, this was immediate family only matter. Ummm, let’s see now?, married 12 years • father of her only two kids • I think he is immediate family!!!!

They have told the kids to prepare, but then have been saying stay positive and not telling them that YES she is going to die. I feel they need to be able to say goodbye. I can’t imagine the mental pain they will always feel if they can’t say goodbye.

I really am so angry they are not letting us know if we should be preparing! If we have to take in his kids full time then we need to make a lot of changes!

His older son hates us both because of his mother, they just going to throw him at us knowing it’s the last thing he would want?

Her mothering skills are totally opposite of mine and having to adjust to kids who have not been taught respect, empathy, to pick up after themselves, to do anything for themselves at all is really hard for me. Both are ADHD but I think the older is actually autistic but she refuses to see it or have them re-evaluated although it has been since they first started school since it’s been done. Now they are 8th grade and high school.

So this is one of the many what I am doing , rants to come.