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Eat Healthy On A Budget Part 2


Eating well and saving more can be easier when you know when to shop and where to look.  Looking for ways to get more from your food budget? Eating …

Eat Healthy On A Budget Part 2
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The shadow addicts


I just read an article on addiction that made it obvious to me that the person who wrote it never has been an addict and probably never knew an addict.

There are many levels of addiction as well as many things a person can be addicted to , I have read that man needs to be addicted to something, work, family, or drugs and alcohol, anything can be an addiction. I am going to address the most known forms of addiction, drugs.

You have addicts to, heroine, cocaine, crack, pills, uppers and downers, most pain reliever pills can be addictive. Some people start from dr prescriptions, other get turned on from friends or just being bored. They say most addicts are people trying to forget or trying not to feel, maybe trying to compensate for something in their life, or something not in their lives, either way I think that is more of a mental addiction.

I personally became addicted to pain reliever pills that I was prescribed for years, moving, getting involved into a not so healthy crowd, and having to change dr, I started buying on the street. Once I decided it was enough, I went back to the dr and was put on suboxen, a drug they prescribe to help people get over addiction, like methadone, it has a blocker for opioids in it so if they are taken you can’t get high, ( although I’m sure people tried everything) the most you can do is nod off.

The drugs they made to help people get off street drugs are so much worse, you trade one for another and those make you sicker if you go with out. It is worse, it is so much harder to get off suboxen then any of the actual drugs! From reading and hearing it from people I know, you can get off pills and feel almost normal again in a week or so depending on the person, with suboxen it can be months if not years before you feel normal, again, depending on the person and the amount and length they were on it. Here in Maine you go to a clinic and they don’t wean you off they jack up your doses and don’t push people to get clean, which is what a clinic is supposed to do. That’s a whole different article though!

I am physically addicted, yes there is a difference, I have had a couple doctors tell me my body could not handle detoxing, which I know is true, but that’s cold turkey. If I didn’t get the nurses to get the papers in to the insurance company so they could get them to the pharmacy before the weekend I have had to go without, I ended up in the hospital. That was when I had a dr who only gave me enough for one day after my appointment. The dr I have now believes in me and gives me enough for, just in case. I have been taking suboxen for about ten years give or take. I have tried to wean off but failed multiple times. My endocrinologist just told me I have to do the weaning in more triple times between dose changes, so months not weeks. The last step is the hardest and I have been putting it off. All of my disabilities revolve around pain and fatigue, weaning causes pain and fatigue.

So it is not so black and white as some may think and it is not always junkies trying to get the next fix. I never sold things or robbed anyone, I never did or said anything in front of my kids and they never ever went with out anything. There are people who do and some even loose their kids, but not all. There happens to be quite a few people like me out there, we are just the ones you don’t hear about.

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Absence Epilepsy


My grandson is 8 and I don’t see him much at all, guilty feeling all around, he started having episodes of zoning out and then not remembering when he came back, so after testing, this is the diagnosis. To start on medication he will have to go through two weeks of being very sick. They live about an hour and half away, which to some people is nothing, my husband drives it to and from work most days, but for me it’s hell. I fall asleep so can’t drive it and my husband works some 70 odd hours a week.

We still have to finish the garage, the house is supposed to be done as soon as we can get a crew over here to do the electrical. The whole second floor of the house has to be packed up and a large amount of the first. Im trying to get myself figured out, I’m lost in a wave of what to do, how to do, make, buy, sell, cleaning schedule, etc, etc, etc.

Then my ADHD step son who can’t remember to do anything and needs constant supervision, he’s 13. My other son is trying to get through high school and screwed off the first two years. Both my husband and I have ADD to different extents so really my house is so unorganized it’s not funny. It’s complete chaos, not one room is finished. Not one.

Can anyone say full of anxiety and stressed out? I feel like I’m being pulled a bunch of different directions and I going to tear apart any time!!!

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11 Parents On The Terrifying Incident That Made Them Realize Their Kid’s Boogeyman Wasn’t ‘Imaginary’


Man in a fishing hat “When I was a kid one night I heard my window across from my bed open. Some guy in a fishing hat stuck his face in through the …

11 Parents On The Terrifying Incident That Made Them Realize Their Kid’s Boogeyman Wasn’t ‘Imaginary’
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Seasonal depression?


It can effect even the happiest of people, like me. I always looked at my depression as selfishness, when I was unhappy. Years of being a single mother, no help at all in any way from dad, financially stressed, fighting constant illness, and trying to do my best for my boys mentally and emotionally to help them become great men.

To be depressed when I have never been so happy has thrown me off. How do you explain something like that to people who have never experienced it?

Thanksgiving my son told me he had to work on Christmas and didn’t think he could come home, I thought I would curl up and ball! I have never had one of my boys on Christmas morning and although I know it is inevitable, I am not ready. He got a later shift then expected so did come home ,till he had to work anyway.

I hope you all have had a Blessed and loving time this holiday season.

Jacob, (my doctor in training), Branden, (turns 18 on the 31), step son Cj, (has made me a grammie )and Ryder, (13 year old just moved in with us from abusive mother, aka, David’s ex wife)

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Lazy parenting or ADHD


I know the main symptoms are ,

Inattentively

Hyperactivity

Impulsively

When my step son first came to live here it was a learning curve for us all but there were so many things he should have known and didn’t, at least in my opinion, like,

Please, thank you, excuse me or your welcome,

He came across rude most of the time, he didn’t have any consideration, empathy, or any manners. At first it was all put on his, ADHD, but I already raised one son with ADHD and did not agree, his mother had taught him that it was a crutch.

Now he has been here 6 months, he has changed significantly enough that his grandmother noticed when he went to visit. He said “please” and “thank you”, he didn’t interrupt, he no longer eats like an animal making a total mess, but most importantly he wasn’t so rude all the time. At least half of his ADHD symptoms had changed, his hyperactivity had been changing already and was completely gone by now and his impulse control was better. If it wasn’t for the fact that he can’t remember anything at all , then I wouldn’t think he even had ADHD.

I guess the fact that he can play a new game on his PlayStation for hours, completely focused on the game and then do it all over again the next day doesn’t count, but shouldn’t it? He is an A student all around, completes and passes in his work on time every time.

If he didn’t say the medication helped him concentrate and complete his school work, I would not think he needed it at all. It makes you think though, how many kids out there have been diagnosed with ADD when it’s just a case of lazy parents?

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Lost the kids for having bipolar ???


Some of you know my best friend is bipolar, she had years with out becoming manic and then it was one thing after another and it has been a roller coaster ride since.

She has 4 kids, all different dads. When the dad of the 3 boy died of an overdose when we did not even know he was using, she went manic. It was a slow process and took looking closely to see she was falling but I saw it. She trusted the wrong people, lost so much and blamed herself, went back to the hospital. She was in and out for months, could not get stable, then met this punk kid who manipulated her into thinking he was something he wasn’t. She got pregnant again. Baby 4 was a girl, he became abusive. I Didn’t Know!!! He stole the babies gift cards , sold things, was a junkie. I tried to kill him when I found out all this after the fact, it was wrong but, I lost it on him and would have if the hammer wasn’t taken out of my hand. I’m ashamed but will admit I did it. Ok, wait, back up. She hit the line, the fine line between love and hate, dealing with abuse and not. For the first time in the 20 years I have known her she became violent, throwing things, loosing her temper and mind. The police came, he told them to leave the kids with him, they said no way and took them. He knew he was supposed to call me , he knew I had paperwork and all the things to take the kids for the time she was in the hospital, but he was mad. They would not let him keep them, not even his one month old daughter, so he let them take them. Now it has been almost a year! The state of Maine refuses to give her kids back for their own safety. I am over the moon pissed! Her lawyer would not let me help. Dhhs has her feeling like such a failure and bad mother she hasn’t argued at all. She did everything they asked, is doing extra counseling to make better choices, but still missed her daughter growing up.

If someone with out bipolar had a break down after being in an abusive relationship for a year and the police came, took the kids to the state and said they had to do things to get them back, they would do it and get them back, but not her. Junkies’s get their kids back but not a single mother with bipolar. I don’t think it’s right, I wanted to make some noise, but she would not let me. I’m not able to do anything to help. She is still afraid if she makes noise against the state that they will take her visiting rights away.! It’s wrong. It’s prejudice. I don’t understand how the state of Maine can just do it.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I just to close to the situation to see it, should the kids be taken away????

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25 Modern Fall Decor Items That Will Transition Your Space For Autumn


#Decor | These modern fall decor inspirations will set you up for design success this upcoming autumn season. Gather contemporary fall decorating …

25 Modern Fall Decor Items That Will Transition Your Space For Autumn
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