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Help the kids with postcards!!


My beautiful little niece lives in Avon Connecticut and her class is doing a project to see if they can collect postcards from around the world!! Anyone willing to send a postcard from home would be majorly appreciated and shared on my page. Used ones can just be written on or new is good as well. Apparently this has been a month going and they have only a few from other states so I’m calling for help!!!

Send the to Tracey Bernier

165 River rd Benton Maine 04901

And I will forward them to my niece!!!

One small thing will help a child and classmates accomplish a great project!!!!

Thank you 🙏

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2 years and a huge win


I have talked about my husband, his kids and ex wife before. Horrible human being, major parental alienation, narcissistic alcoholic, daddy money spoiled like crazy, that about sums that up, now that you are caught up,

I started helping my husband stand up to her when we met, when we went to court to ask for more time with them it was decided he should do therapy with them to see about fixing his relationship with them. His younger son actually is great, no fixing needed but his older boy hates him cause of mom. She refused to allow him in with the therapist alone, he is 15. Every one step forward and mom brought him two steps back.

With child support changes they were in and out of court and finally my husband put his foot down and said I have asked for two years and I want it done. We had to go to trial because she refused everything. He told the judge, we have shared custody but she makes all the rules, I see my son 54 out of 365 days a year!

We got everything we asked for!! We won! We had to wait a week for it to come by mail but we WON!! She had a lawyer even , we did not. We didn’t get to use all the parental alienation proof we had but we still won.

Christmas came early!!!

Bless all the children

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One day you will find someone that chooses you and continues to choose you everyday, and that’s when you will be thankful everything happened the way it did. | Journey2Motivate


One day you will find someone that chooses you and continues to choose you everyday, and that’s when you will be thankful everything happened the way it did. | Journey2Motivate

One day you will find someone that chooses you and continues to choose you everyday, and that’s when you will be thankful everything happened the way it did. | Journey2Motivate


— Read on journey2motivate.com/one-day-you-will-find-someone-that-chooses-you-and-continues-to-choose-you-everyday-and-thats-when-you-will-be-thankful-everything-happened-the-way-it-did-journey2motivate/

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Kitten!


This is Cloe. We just couldn’t let her stay were she lived. They had ten cats and one litter of 8 kittens. Small, malnourished and living in filth. As we helped a PALS shelter gather them this little girl won my heart so after some time at the shelter being fixed and brought out of danger I brought her home. 2 hours and she is now sleeping in the window content as can be. Lol my pup was over excited and she never met a dog before but I am hoping they will become friends. Selina the 4 year old we brought home from the shelter months ago is not very happy about it but I am also hoping that will change.

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Since they were babies


I have written this poem in different ways since my boys were born to include the times and situations. I sent this with my son to have in his apt , he knows it’s just a , makes mom feel better thing! Lol I can’t believe how fast time has gone, my youngest is 16 and 6 feet tall and my first born is getting ready to go to Med school!

I feel old!!!

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My son is becoming a man


At 21, he has a vehicle, apartment, and is working at a hospital making 26. an hour as a technician, plus another part time job. He has gone off to college and lived in the dorms but this is actually moving out! Totally different! I cried like a baby! Lol

I made him some, Open When , cards. I printed some envelopes and glued them together and then put my notes inside. I labeled them, Open When~ you finish unpacking, after your first day at work, when you had a hard day, etc, etc.

you are only limited by your imagination and things to say! If you go to Pinterest you can find some printable stuff to help out!

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The therapist


My husband and his older son have been going to see a therapist, at different times because he “hates” him. His ex refuses to let him go in a lone , she even after being asked and told multiple times to stop, talks about him right in front of the boy. She has made up lots of whopper stories about both of us. She has more than just a negative attitude but is the biggest narcissist I have ever met.

After months of this weekly it has come to the point that the therapist is writing to the court to make her recommendations. She thinks Garrett has autism, ex freaked out, she thinks he should be re-evaluated, ex said no, so she said point blank, You are nothing but negative, you have put many things in to this child’s head, you are the poster example of parental alienation and you also need individual therapy! We have her printing it all up and on our next check in phone call going to throw it all out. All that we have on her, all she has done and we will see what happens. She has made claims and accusations but has no proof of anything. We do.

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Coparenting with a narcissists sucks!!!!


My husband has two boys from his previous marriage to the devil, lol, ok , a horrible closet drunk narcissist.

Quick back story, After they met the classic signs of abuse that of course he did not see, became apparent to his friends and family, isolation, guilt trips, controlling, after awhile got control of all the money, threw away all his hobbies ( train collections and most of his music stuff) when they moved in together. At one point he was fed up and was going to leave and she “accidentally ” forgot to take her birth control got pregnant and David being who he is stayed. After married for 2 years he had his own bedroom, after the two boys started to grow up, she would chase him away down to the basement to his work space and kept the boys in her bedroom all the time. They did not go outside ever cause they would get “stolen,” David was not allowed to have a smart phone or any computers, he was not allowed on family trips, you get the point. Every night she would pass out drunk, at first he put her to bed but then just left her, she made fun of him in front of the kids, they told me when we first met, “dad was not allowed to help with homework because he was to stupid, “. This he put up with for ten years, he did not see or talk to his family, only left the house to work, and was miserable but says he was scared to leave her alone with the boys till they were older.

After we got together I started making him stand up to her, stopping her from dropping the kids off late, picking them up early, planning things on his visit days, she hated it, and me. She did everything to turn them against him, told them him and I had an affair, ( one example) and she succeeded turning the oldest to hate him. He is now 13, is diagnosed with ADHD but seems more autistic really, still calls them mommy and daddy, slept in her bed till he was 12, does not make friends easy having personal space issues I guess. He only eats chicken nuggets and fries and a few more other things, will not try anything new unless it’s a video game. Will not play sports, will not go anywhere with out his mother, she goes on all field trips, takes him to his one friends house and has to stay for a few minutes to make sure he wants to stay, he will have complete mental breakdowns screaming, crying, hides under things and smacks himself in the head. He stopped talking to us first, then would not eat her because we were gross, brought a sleeping bag and slept in his clothes and shoes. This was two nights a month. His visits were, sat at 9 till Sunday at 4 every other weekend at first cause he lived with a roommate and the boys were not very comfortable there. Then he got Wed nights from after school till 8. She will not compromise at all, if he can’t pick them up on time, she gets mad, if he misses a day because of work she will not let him have a different one, if he drops them off 5 min late she flips.

The younger one comes as much as possible and we have a great relationship with him, the older one does not even speak to us never mind come over. We have court appointed therapy now and the therapist is blown away by the amount of parental alienation and consistent lack of concern for her kids his ex shows , she refuses to let the therapist see the boy alone. She says things constantly she should not right in front of the boy. It breaks my heart because I know he is never going to be able to be a normal or even somewhat normal kid. He has an unnatural attachment to his mother. It is the worst thing anyone can do to a child. We need to remember our relationship, our lives, our problems are not our children’s! My husband lost a son and two boys are in mental states that will need a lot of fixing as they grow up, because of this horrific woman.

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My heart shatters more every day I do not have contact with my grandchildren. Their mother uses them as pawns and anyone who she gets mad at for any reason she takes them from. She has told them that their father does not love them and he picked his beer over them. I can’t bear to imagine what she told them about me!!! She is a horrible person and I do not say that often about people but I have been trying to put together a case for grandparents rights. They lived with me for over a year, always would run to me open armed and we had a very strong bond. Now it has been almost a YEAR since I have seen them and I just can’t believe it! She knows how much they love me , she knows everything but just doesn’t care. She puts herself before them and always has. She lost her first child to the father and if I bring all this stuff to court and they ask me I would take them in a heart beat. Even with all my issues I know those babies need someone to stand up for them. This week my little pickle will be 4 years old. I missed her whole 3 year , almost of time I can never get back. I’m so scared to actually loose them . I know I have been holding back because I am scared I would loose but I need to believe they would be better with me in there lives than not.

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