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Lost the kids for having bipolar ???


Some of you know my best friend is bipolar, she had years with out becoming manic and then it was one thing after another and it has been a roller coaster ride since.

She has 4 kids, all different dads. When the dad of the 3 boy died of an overdose when we did not even know he was using, she went manic. It was a slow process and took looking closely to see she was falling but I saw it. She trusted the wrong people, lost so much and blamed herself, went back to the hospital. She was in and out for months, could not get stable, then met this punk kid who manipulated her into thinking he was something he wasn’t. She got pregnant again. Baby 4 was a girl, he became abusive. I Didn’t Know!!! He stole the babies gift cards , sold things, was a junkie. I tried to kill him when I found out all this after the fact, it was wrong but, I lost it on him and would have if the hammer wasn’t taken out of my hand. I’m ashamed but will admit I did it. Ok, wait, back up. She hit the line, the fine line between love and hate, dealing with abuse and not. For the first time in the 20 years I have known her she became violent, throwing things, loosing her temper and mind. The police came, he told them to leave the kids with him, they said no way and took them. He knew he was supposed to call me , he knew I had paperwork and all the things to take the kids for the time she was in the hospital, but he was mad. They would not let him keep them, not even his one month old daughter, so he let them take them. Now it has been almost a year! The state of Maine refuses to give her kids back for their own safety. I am over the moon pissed! Her lawyer would not let me help. Dhhs has her feeling like such a failure and bad mother she hasn’t argued at all. She did everything they asked, is doing extra counseling to make better choices, but still missed her daughter growing up.

If someone with out bipolar had a break down after being in an abusive relationship for a year and the police came, took the kids to the state and said they had to do things to get them back, they would do it and get them back, but not her. Junkies’s get their kids back but not a single mother with bipolar. I don’t think it’s right, I wanted to make some noise, but she would not let me. I’m not able to do anything to help. She is still afraid if she makes noise against the state that they will take her visiting rights away.! It’s wrong. It’s prejudice. I don’t understand how the state of Maine can just do it.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I just to close to the situation to see it, should the kids be taken away????

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Free Printable Neighborhood Halloween Scavenger Hunt


If you’re looking for fun Halloween activities that you can do while still social distancing, check out this free printable halloween scavenger hunt!…

Free Printable Neighborhood Halloween Scavenger Hunt
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Police attend party


State trooper, deputy sheriff, Damariscotta police department and the Boothbay harbor P D took time to attend an 8 year olds birthday party. He does a lot of appreciative gifts for these men and woman so they decided to give back! They ran around playing capture the flag and football with these kids for a couple hours and it was amazing!!!

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7 Effective Exercises to Get Rid of Folds on Your Back and Sides


https://brightside.me/inspiration-health/7-effective-exercises-to-get-rid-of-folds-on-your-back-and-sides-324510/?utm_source=fb_brightside&utm_medium…

7 Effective Exercises to Get Rid of Folds on Your Back and Sides
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Help the kids with postcards!!


My beautiful little niece lives in Avon Connecticut and her class is doing a project to see if they can collect postcards from around the world!! Anyone willing to send a postcard from home would be majorly appreciated and shared on my page. Used ones can just be written on or new is good as well. Apparently this has been a month going and they have only a few from other states so I’m calling for help!!!

Send the to Tracey Bernier

165 River rd Benton Maine 04901

And I will forward them to my niece!!!

One small thing will help a child and classmates accomplish a great project!!!!

Thank you 🙏

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The Evil lives


My husband exwife has been a nightmare since day one, it’s the ” he went and found his soul mate and got happy” thing. The closet drunk went and drank her liver to death, we thought she was going to die. Then the family stopped talking to us, stressing about adding two more kids to the house full time, allll the things that come with that very horrific thought, they have a cat, one of them hates us both, etc, etc,

To update, she lives. She came home from the hospital and if she can stay sober for two years then they will give her a transplant. WOW!

She has caused serious mental and emotional issues to those two boys, so part of me just thinks die already!

Then you have the boys, never taught respect, to clean up after themselves, empathy is non existent, they have been spoiled beyond imagination and still treated as much as babies as possible. The older one treated differently because he is “special” so the younger one is the one blamed for everything, and knows it.

I have such a hard time with the younger one. The older one does not visit at all. I know he needs meds for his ADHD but he takes 3 pills a day and seems to me to only get his hyperactivity under control. I get frustrated, impatient, aggravated, and plain stressed with him as it is when he is here for 3 days so living with us scares me to death! The things he does not know are the things I demanded my kids knew. How in the word do I switch my believes and parenting ?

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