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Trauma to his children


My husband has an ex who is an alcoholic, has been in and out of the hospital because of it and was told not to drink at all. Of course she started again. We got a call from her family about it , she called her boyfriend drunk and driving, he called them and they called us. After talking to them that’s when his 12 year old said mom was drinking again. He told what he knew and we decided we could not let him go back there. What if they found her dead? Not to mention the drinking and driving!! The trauma would be unreal! He also has a 15 year old who is I really believe autistic, lots of other people have said the same but when it is mentioned to his mother she freaks out and says no he’s not doing that testing and usually stops going to that dr. The 15 year old is all about momma and will not leave her side at all, hates dad and I and just repeats everything momma says. I almost think he would kill himself if he found her dead. She uses his ADHD as a crutch and blames the other son, who is also ADHD for everything so he will end up resenting his brother. We talk about all this with him , he is in all the gifted and talented at school and really is perceptive.

So mom has so far tried, guilt, bribery, “the you don’t love me “, thing , has tried to get him out of our house and into her truck and he just keeps telling her he will come home when she gets help.

She won’t, she denies it all and has convinced herself all she believes is true and we have lied about everything turning her child against her.

His grandmother called him and as usual puts it all on him and his brother. Told him to go home and said to just call if something happens!!! Oh ok so let the kids deal with her drinking, let the kids be the ones to find her dead , what is wrong with these people!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!

Seriously!!! I am just beside myself, as it is I can only try to save one from the trauma and abuse , although the grandmother says they should deal with this together so they can support each other. ? I don’t even know if any of this will hold up in court for temp custody. I don’t know what to do. She won’t admit she has a problem, the only proof we have is from the 12 year old testimony and I just don’t know what to do to help the 15 year old!!!!

Anyone have any advice??????????

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Sharing from Marilyn’s blog. SOME INFORMATION ON CORONAVIRUS – BETTE STEVENS, GUEST BLOGGER


Originally posted on Keep it alive: This was originally a comment to my post from Bette Stevensbut it is the first substantial information I’ve …

Sharing from Marilyn’s blog. SOME INFORMATION ON CORONAVIRUS – BETTE STEVENS, GUEST BLOGGER
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Help the kids with postcards!!


My beautiful little niece lives in Avon Connecticut and her class is doing a project to see if they can collect postcards from around the world!! Anyone willing to send a postcard from home would be majorly appreciated and shared on my page. Used ones can just be written on or new is good as well. Apparently this has been a month going and they have only a few from other states so I’m calling for help!!!

Send the to Tracey Bernier

165 River rd Benton Maine 04901

And I will forward them to my niece!!!

One small thing will help a child and classmates accomplish a great project!!!!

Thank you 🙏

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Meaningful vs Happy


Do you have a meaningful life or a happy life?

Is there a difference, some say yes and others no.

I know I have a happy life. I have an amazing husband, great kids, house full of animals who keep me laughing and always make me feel loved when I am alone. I am hands on building the house of my dreams, as close as possible at least, and don’t have to worry about food or rent as I have in the past.

Can you have both? I struggle constantly trying to make myself better, mentally and physically. If I could have someone to tell me, how to make a small business out of my , creations, how to feel better about myself, how to be healthier and more comfortable in my own body.

Step by step, you need to do this , this and this today. Everyday. But also help me stay motivated and focused while also, building a house, being a wife, mother with responsibilities ( laundry, dishes, etc, etc,) and friend.

Do they make an app for that??

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I just can’t loose weight


I was a size 6-8 my whole life until about 15 years ago. I was diagnosed with Addison’s disease when I was 22, this was 8 years later. I am ashamed to say I weigh 202. Pounds and I feel disgusting. I have physical limitations that I do not fully understand the reason for, I have fibromyalgia, ok, I have arthritis, ok, but I have a swelling in my hip and “tire” area no doctor has been able to explain! That was when I started limiting my activity and started to gain weight. I just figured out I can not have dairy and thought that would be it, but, nope. It is not my bones, we know that for sure. I think it has something to do with air, I can get a lot of gas sometimes after the swelling comes but it is so severe I look crooked! It is visible to anyone that one side is bigger, it has always been the left side. If I am physically active when it is already swollen, it gets worse and can hurt all the way down my leg. Everyone just says,” there is nothing there”? Yup, just my hip. But it swells. My dr said to “get regular ” but I have never been!!

So, I need to loose weight. I hate the way I look. But I just can’t fig out how with limited mobility. My dr has suggested water physical therapy. I just feel like it is hopeless. Of course my husband loves me and always gets upset when I say I am fat or something, says he still sees the 15 year old girl he met but, he will see it someday.

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Spoiled Kid? Discover precisely how to unspoil a child (beginning today!).


Spoiled Kid? Discover precisely how to unspoil a child (beginning today!).

Spoiled Kid? Discover precisely how to unspoil a child (beginning today!).


— Read on idonotknowhow.com/spoiled-kid-discover-precisely-how-to-unspoil-a-child-beginning-today/

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Bats friend or foe?


My son woke me up in the middle of the night said he had a BAT in his room!!! Wait,! What!!!! We put a towel under the door since my husband is not home and my son was on the couch.

This morning I walk into the other room and my cats are playing with a bat on the stairs!!

I don’t know if it’s the same bat or not but it is winter time here in Maine!! They should be hibernating!

Do I have a colony in my house???

I’m freaking out here friends!

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