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Burnt out


It is one stupid idea after another, Im trying constantly to prove this and that are wrong, wondering how can they not see the damage they are putting on them?

Since David ant I got together his social path ex wife has done everything possible to turn those two boys against him. She started it the day they were born. The marriage was a sham, two years in he had his own room but she was a closet drunk so he stayed for them. Now he realizes how bad that was and her drinking has caught up to her. The drs said no more drinking at all. She is an alcoholic and coming home to her two kids. They want to help mom of course, so they are told to break any alcohol they see her with. Don’t let her drink. So now these two young boys are given the responsibility of keeping an alcoholic away from alcohol!

If anything goes wrong they will blame themselves! REALLY!!!!

In the same sentence nana says, they are all that matters, if she wants to drink let her it will be her fault not mine and they asked what they could do to help,

Then we have the grandkids stupid mother who has decided her new man is now the kids daddy, my grandson has been out of school for a week and when I try to ask I am told not to call back or she will put a pfa on me! My stepson is in jail so she is doing whatever she wants with those kids and along with her mother who helped her rob me a couple years ago trusting type and her bipolar self who knows what is going on. She has been a big balls of lies and more lies since day one, so many she will totally forget and not have a clue what I am talking about but when I sent her a screenshot of her saying it, I am the bad guy, I am the one whose is denied the kids for months.

Has the world always been filled with so many narcissistic parents?

Is that how the world got like this is it just keeps going generation after generation??

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6 brutally honest reasons why your intentions don’t matter, but your actions do


6 brutally honest reasons why your intentions don’t matter, but your actions do

https://zedie.wordpress.com/2018/05/11/6-brutally-honest-reasons-why-your-intentions-dont-matter-but-your-actions-do/
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Posted in my thoughts, Parents, self-help, tips & tricks, WOW Stuff

Advice?


I’m so torn up inside, I have been trying not to cry consistently, part of me says fine if that’s the way he wants it then let it be.

The other part says no, u don’t get to call me mom just when u want to, either I am or I am not.

I haven’t talked to him, he may have said not to tell me anything

Or, she’s doing it because she is enjoying the attention and she is and has only seen the good side.

I’m the one that got nasty messages from angry people who’s car he stole.

I’m torn, what do I do???

(For full story see previous post, y am I so bothered?)

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Why is this bothering me so much??


quick summary, 8 years ago I found my ex step son on Facebook, invited him to meet his brother and then into our home and back to my heart. He called me mom, his kids call me Grammie, I knew how horribly he had been raised and how hard his life had been for him. Doing what I could for him and trying to help him was really hard, his narcissistic ways made it impossible to get him to see things different. He’s been in and out of trouble, and was arrested again last Friday for stealing cars. The part that is bothering me is the woman who he had been staying with for the past idk, 6 months is calling him her son. She has known him since birth, but I don’t know how much of his life she has been in, she has been the one in contact with the law since he was living with her and they all think she is mom, I told her I was upset finding out about him almost 24 hours after and not by her,that I felt pushed to the sidelines and that it bothered me she was calling him son, but it didn’t matter even if she said sorry and said it wasn’t like that but then still kept me in the dark about what she knew and then on Facebook she is posting how much she misses him and it’s all her son…..

this is not supposed to be about me, I have no legal right to call him son, so why is it bothering me so much that she is?