quick summary, 8 years ago I found my ex step son on Facebook, invited him to meet his brother and then into our home and back to my heart. He called me mom, his kids call me Grammie, I knew how horribly he had been raised and how hard his life had been for him. Doing what I could for him and trying to help him was really hard, his narcissistic ways made it impossible to get him to see things different. He’s been in and out of trouble, and was arrested again last Friday for stealing cars. The part that is bothering me is the woman who he had been staying with for the past idk, 6 months is calling him her son. She has known him since birth, but I don’t know how much of his life she has been in, she has been the one in contact with the law since he was living with her and they all think she is mom, I told her I was upset finding out about him almost 24 hours after and not by her,that I felt pushed to the sidelines and that it bothered me she was calling him son, but it didn’t matter even if she said sorry and said it wasn’t like that but then still kept me in the dark about what she knew and then on Facebook she is posting how much she misses him and it’s all her son…..
this is not supposed to be about me, I have no legal right to call him son, so why is it bothering me so much that she is?