My grandmother had it, it may go beyond her but I’m not sure so, and her sister has it. Then my mother has been diagnosed, after 3 surgeries she has been told She has to have her whole right breast removed.
The thought of loosing the very thing that makes you a woman can be quite traumatic. Some woman can easily let it go but some feel they will be less of a woman after.
My family does not speak of feelings or emotions. My uncle says we are not lovey dovey. I don’t think decision is a bad thing, communication is key in all marriage and relationships, so shouldn’t it be in families?
To this day I don’t know why my family turned from me 20 years ago but at this point swallowing it and opening the lines of communication is all I can do. My older brother spoke to me for the first time at my grandmothers funeral last month. I hugged him , told him I missed him and loved him. Small steps my husband says, small steps.
So now every female in our family line has had Breast cancer. The fact that my mother called me to tell me and make sure I had my mammogram almost made me cry.
Silver lining , my mother also has MS and the chemo helps that.
In the past eight months exactly sept 1, there have been so many drastic changes in my life. All for the better in one way or another.
I met my soul mate, again.
We bought a house
We moved in together which means a new town and new school, all new streets and neighbors.
I was diagnosed with cervical cancer to add to my list of health issues.
They removed all the cervical cancer!
Learning to DIY everything from windows to floors to lights and faucets!
I have never had my own yard nevermind an acre! !
Getting married in one month and 14 days, doing almost all of it ourselves.
My life hasn’t been the worst but I have seen my share of horror and evil in this world and believe everything in my life has been preparing me for this, my happy ending.
I struggled to be a disabled mom and dad to my son’s who I wanted to grow to be healthy and happy young men going out to live full lives as adults and not feeling the need to compensate for what they didn’t have as boys. A father, money, a home and a mother who wasn’t sickly. My focus has been on myself and my family mentally and emotionally for so long that once my older son left home for school, I felt a little lost. My other boy is 14, 6 feet tall and full of confidence as to who he is. That’s when David came into my life after 25 years. I realized he was gods way of saying,” it’s ok to find love and let go, be happy, let all that work pay off,” and that’s exactly what it has been like for 8 months.
It is with great emotion that I tell you, I was recently diagnosed with cervical cancer. They immediately started on removing it. I had two different proceedings done and after my second , they say it’s all gone!
I am STILL remodeling my house, still planning a backyard wedding for October 14 and then this, I was more frustrated that I had to remain in bed for a week than anything else! Lol it just never crossed my mind they would fail. I was just not worried, I new, I just had that feeling inside that it was all going to be ok and they would get rid of it all. I was in bed with no problems for the first three days, then on day four I moved around a bit, day five- more and on day 6 was put back to bed rest. Pushed it. Yesterday was day one week and I’m still trying to be easy but it’s so hard with everything else going on.
I still have a , I guess u could say, dormant mass inside my intestines that has just stayed there, not changing, not growing, not doing anything. It’s been there for a few years and the concern has always been with major surgery and how my body would handle it. This was not a major surgery but it was still pretty invasive, I think I handled it just fine. The Dr don’t want to mess with it if they don’t have to, I can see y.
I start with a new primary care next week and am very excited. I have been dealing with so much unknown that it’s got me frustrated, I’m hoping a new set of eyes will finally find me some answers.