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The shadow addicts


I just read an article on addiction that made it obvious to me that the person who wrote it never has been an addict and probably never knew an addict.

There are many levels of addiction as well as many things a person can be addicted to , I have read that man needs to be addicted to something, work, family, or drugs and alcohol, anything can be an addiction. I am going to address the most known forms of addiction, drugs.

You have addicts to, heroine, cocaine, crack, pills, uppers and downers, most pain reliever pills can be addictive. Some people start from dr prescriptions, other get turned on from friends or just being bored. They say most addicts are people trying to forget or trying not to feel, maybe trying to compensate for something in their life, or something not in their lives, either way I think that is more of a mental addiction.

I personally became addicted to pain reliever pills that I was prescribed for years, moving, getting involved into a not so healthy crowd, and having to change dr, I started buying on the street. Once I decided it was enough, I went back to the dr and was put on suboxen, a drug they prescribe to help people get over addiction, like methadone, it has a blocker for opioids in it so if they are taken you can’t get high, ( although I’m sure people tried everything) the most you can do is nod off.

The drugs they made to help people get off street drugs are so much worse, you trade one for another and those make you sicker if you go with out. It is worse, it is so much harder to get off suboxen then any of the actual drugs! From reading and hearing it from people I know, you can get off pills and feel almost normal again in a week or so depending on the person, with suboxen it can be months if not years before you feel normal, again, depending on the person and the amount and length they were on it. Here in Maine you go to a clinic and they don’t wean you off they jack up your doses and don’t push people to get clean, which is what a clinic is supposed to do. That’s a whole different article though!

I am physically addicted, yes there is a difference, I have had a couple doctors tell me my body could not handle detoxing, which I know is true, but that’s cold turkey. If I didn’t get the nurses to get the papers in to the insurance company so they could get them to the pharmacy before the weekend I have had to go without, I ended up in the hospital. That was when I had a dr who only gave me enough for one day after my appointment. The dr I have now believes in me and gives me enough for, just in case. I have been taking suboxen for about ten years give or take. I have tried to wean off but failed multiple times. My endocrinologist just told me I have to do the weaning in more triple times between dose changes, so months not weeks. The last step is the hardest and I have been putting it off. All of my disabilities revolve around pain and fatigue, weaning causes pain and fatigue.

So it is not so black and white as some may think and it is not always junkies trying to get the next fix. I never sold things or robbed anyone, I never did or said anything in front of my kids and they never ever went with out anything. There are people who do and some even loose their kids, but not all. There happens to be quite a few people like me out there, we are just the ones you don’t hear about.

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Lazy parenting or ADHD


I know the main symptoms are ,

Inattentively

Hyperactivity

Impulsively

When my step son first came to live here it was a learning curve for us all but there were so many things he should have known and didn’t, at least in my opinion, like,

Please, thank you, excuse me or your welcome,

He came across rude most of the time, he didn’t have any consideration, empathy, or any manners. At first it was all put on his, ADHD, but I already raised one son with ADHD and did not agree, his mother had taught him that it was a crutch.

Now he has been here 6 months, he has changed significantly enough that his grandmother noticed when he went to visit. He said “please” and “thank you”, he didn’t interrupt, he no longer eats like an animal making a total mess, but most importantly he wasn’t so rude all the time. At least half of his ADHD symptoms had changed, his hyperactivity had been changing already and was completely gone by now and his impulse control was better. If it wasn’t for the fact that he can’t remember anything at all , then I wouldn’t think he even had ADHD.

I guess the fact that he can play a new game on his PlayStation for hours, completely focused on the game and then do it all over again the next day doesn’t count, but shouldn’t it? He is an A student all around, completes and passes in his work on time every time.

If he didn’t say the medication helped him concentrate and complete his school work, I would not think he needed it at all. It makes you think though, how many kids out there have been diagnosed with ADD when it’s just a case of lazy parents?

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Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish


These free breast cancer awareness SVG files were a lot of fun to design and create. Now I get to share them with you! For Breast Cancer Awareness …

Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish
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2 months????


I had someone tell me the beginning of August that their dog was sick, acting funny and not eating. We went through checking this and that but my final advice was to take him to the vet.

Yesterday I talked to them again and they said he died! I was surprised and of course asked how? They said they had just made an appointment for the vets! It was some kind of infection they said.

Two months that poor dog was sick. I mean did he suffer? Was he in pain? How could they neglect him that long like that? It broke my heart to hear that. Now my thought was to call someone for they still have 5 other dogs! I don’t think there is anyone though. We don’t have animal control here. I’m conflicted. What do you think???

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5 inches


I lost 5 inches in my waist, I realized the secret , for me , anyway! Protein!!!!!

I needed to eat more protein, especially in the mornings. I am getting more exercise but it’s mostly because I feel better so want to do more. After a certain age it’s harder to loose and the things we did as teens or younger adults just don’t work anymore.

I already eat pretty healthy. I don’t drink soda or surgery drinks, I hardly drink coffee anymore. I have one problem and it’s dairy. I’m not lactose intolerant, I am dairy intolerant! Who knew it was different!! I’m also not much of a meat eater. Protein, lots of dairy and meat!

Ok so I got a free app , tons of free health apps out there!, I don’t count calories but I watch my water amount, watch my steps and the app I use has daily exercise plans on it. I use Better Me. I started to see roughly how many calories I was burning up in a day and ate high protein but low calories foods. There are great recipes on the app too. I stretch out everyday, do the daily routines ( when I remember) and just over all feel good!!!

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Lost the kids for having bipolar ???


Some of you know my best friend is bipolar, she had years with out becoming manic and then it was one thing after another and it has been a roller coaster ride since.

She has 4 kids, all different dads. When the dad of the 3 boy died of an overdose when we did not even know he was using, she went manic. It was a slow process and took looking closely to see she was falling but I saw it. She trusted the wrong people, lost so much and blamed herself, went back to the hospital. She was in and out for months, could not get stable, then met this punk kid who manipulated her into thinking he was something he wasn’t. She got pregnant again. Baby 4 was a girl, he became abusive. I Didn’t Know!!! He stole the babies gift cards , sold things, was a junkie. I tried to kill him when I found out all this after the fact, it was wrong but, I lost it on him and would have if the hammer wasn’t taken out of my hand. I’m ashamed but will admit I did it. Ok, wait, back up. She hit the line, the fine line between love and hate, dealing with abuse and not. For the first time in the 20 years I have known her she became violent, throwing things, loosing her temper and mind. The police came, he told them to leave the kids with him, they said no way and took them. He knew he was supposed to call me , he knew I had paperwork and all the things to take the kids for the time she was in the hospital, but he was mad. They would not let him keep them, not even his one month old daughter, so he let them take them. Now it has been almost a year! The state of Maine refuses to give her kids back for their own safety. I am over the moon pissed! Her lawyer would not let me help. Dhhs has her feeling like such a failure and bad mother she hasn’t argued at all. She did everything they asked, is doing extra counseling to make better choices, but still missed her daughter growing up.

If someone with out bipolar had a break down after being in an abusive relationship for a year and the police came, took the kids to the state and said they had to do things to get them back, they would do it and get them back, but not her. Junkies’s get their kids back but not a single mother with bipolar. I don’t think it’s right, I wanted to make some noise, but she would not let me. I’m not able to do anything to help. She is still afraid if she makes noise against the state that they will take her visiting rights away.! It’s wrong. It’s prejudice. I don’t understand how the state of Maine can just do it.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I just to close to the situation to see it, should the kids be taken away????

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Why The Opioid Crisis Is Dangerous For Chronic Pain


Healthcare providers are reducing painkillers for financial & political gains due to the opioid crisis, threatening chronic pain patients. The post …

Why The Opioid Crisis Is Dangerous For Chronic Pain
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Breast cancer tradition


Yup, you read it right, tradition.

My grandmother had it, it may go beyond her but I’m not sure so, and her sister has it. Then my mother has been diagnosed, after 3 surgeries she has been told She has to have her whole right breast removed.

The thought of loosing the very thing that makes you a woman can be quite traumatic. Some woman can easily let it go but some feel they will be less of a woman after.

My family does not speak of feelings or emotions. My uncle says we are not lovey dovey. I don’t think decision is a bad thing, communication is key in all marriage and relationships, so shouldn’t it be in families?

To this day I don’t know why my family turned from me 20 years ago but at this point swallowing it and opening the lines of communication is all I can do. My older brother spoke to me for the first time at my grandmothers funeral last month. I hugged him , told him I missed him and loved him. Small steps my husband says, small steps.

So now every female in our family line has had Breast cancer. The fact that my mother called me to tell me and make sure I had my mammogram almost made me cry.

Silver lining , my mother also has MS and the chemo helps that.

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