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Lazy parenting or ADHD


I know the main symptoms are ,

Inattentively

Hyperactivity

Impulsively

When my step son first came to live here it was a learning curve for us all but there were so many things he should have known and didn’t, at least in my opinion, like,

Please, thank you, excuse me or your welcome,

He came across rude most of the time, he didn’t have any consideration, empathy, or any manners. At first it was all put on his, ADHD, but I already raised one son with ADHD and did not agree, his mother had taught him that it was a crutch.

Now he has been here 6 months, he has changed significantly enough that his grandmother noticed when he went to visit. He said “please” and “thank you”, he didn’t interrupt, he no longer eats like an animal making a total mess, but most importantly he wasn’t so rude all the time. At least half of his ADHD symptoms had changed, his hyperactivity had been changing already and was completely gone by now and his impulse control was better. If it wasn’t for the fact that he can’t remember anything at all , then I wouldn’t think he even had ADHD.

I guess the fact that he can play a new game on his PlayStation for hours, completely focused on the game and then do it all over again the next day doesn’t count, but shouldn’t it? He is an A student all around, completes and passes in his work on time every time.

If he didn’t say the medication helped him concentrate and complete his school work, I would not think he needed it at all. It makes you think though, how many kids out there have been diagnosed with ADD when it’s just a case of lazy parents?

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Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish


These free breast cancer awareness SVG files were a lot of fun to design and create. Now I get to share them with you! For Breast Cancer Awareness …

Free Breast Cancer Awareness SVG Files In English and Spanish
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2 months????


I had someone tell me the beginning of August that their dog was sick, acting funny and not eating. We went through checking this and that but my final advice was to take him to the vet.

Yesterday I talked to them again and they said he died! I was surprised and of course asked how? They said they had just made an appointment for the vets! It was some kind of infection they said.

Two months that poor dog was sick. I mean did he suffer? Was he in pain? How could they neglect him that long like that? It broke my heart to hear that. Now my thought was to call someone for they still have 5 other dogs! I don’t think there is anyone though. We don’t have animal control here. I’m conflicted. What do you think???

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5 inches


I lost 5 inches in my waist, I realized the secret , for me , anyway! Protein!!!!!

I needed to eat more protein, especially in the mornings. I am getting more exercise but it’s mostly because I feel better so want to do more. After a certain age it’s harder to loose and the things we did as teens or younger adults just don’t work anymore.

I already eat pretty healthy. I don’t drink soda or surgery drinks, I hardly drink coffee anymore. I have one problem and it’s dairy. I’m not lactose intolerant, I am dairy intolerant! Who knew it was different!! I’m also not much of a meat eater. Protein, lots of dairy and meat!

Ok so I got a free app , tons of free health apps out there!, I don’t count calories but I watch my water amount, watch my steps and the app I use has daily exercise plans on it. I use Better Me. I started to see roughly how many calories I was burning up in a day and ate high protein but low calories foods. There are great recipes on the app too. I stretch out everyday, do the daily routines ( when I remember) and just over all feel good!!!

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Lost the kids for having bipolar ???


Some of you know my best friend is bipolar, she had years with out becoming manic and then it was one thing after another and it has been a roller coaster ride since.

She has 4 kids, all different dads. When the dad of the 3 boy died of an overdose when we did not even know he was using, she went manic. It was a slow process and took looking closely to see she was falling but I saw it. She trusted the wrong people, lost so much and blamed herself, went back to the hospital. She was in and out for months, could not get stable, then met this punk kid who manipulated her into thinking he was something he wasn’t. She got pregnant again. Baby 4 was a girl, he became abusive. I Didn’t Know!!! He stole the babies gift cards , sold things, was a junkie. I tried to kill him when I found out all this after the fact, it was wrong but, I lost it on him and would have if the hammer wasn’t taken out of my hand. I’m ashamed but will admit I did it. Ok, wait, back up. She hit the line, the fine line between love and hate, dealing with abuse and not. For the first time in the 20 years I have known her she became violent, throwing things, loosing her temper and mind. The police came, he told them to leave the kids with him, they said no way and took them. He knew he was supposed to call me , he knew I had paperwork and all the things to take the kids for the time she was in the hospital, but he was mad. They would not let him keep them, not even his one month old daughter, so he let them take them. Now it has been almost a year! The state of Maine refuses to give her kids back for their own safety. I am over the moon pissed! Her lawyer would not let me help. Dhhs has her feeling like such a failure and bad mother she hasn’t argued at all. She did everything they asked, is doing extra counseling to make better choices, but still missed her daughter growing up.

If someone with out bipolar had a break down after being in an abusive relationship for a year and the police came, took the kids to the state and said they had to do things to get them back, they would do it and get them back, but not her. Junkies’s get their kids back but not a single mother with bipolar. I don’t think it’s right, I wanted to make some noise, but she would not let me. I’m not able to do anything to help. She is still afraid if she makes noise against the state that they will take her visiting rights away.! It’s wrong. It’s prejudice. I don’t understand how the state of Maine can just do it.

Am I being unreasonable? Am I just to close to the situation to see it, should the kids be taken away????

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Why The Opioid Crisis Is Dangerous For Chronic Pain


Healthcare providers are reducing painkillers for financial & political gains due to the opioid crisis, threatening chronic pain patients. The post …

Why The Opioid Crisis Is Dangerous For Chronic Pain
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Breast cancer tradition


Yup, you read it right, tradition.

My grandmother had it, it may go beyond her but I’m not sure so, and her sister has it. Then my mother has been diagnosed, after 3 surgeries she has been told She has to have her whole right breast removed.

The thought of loosing the very thing that makes you a woman can be quite traumatic. Some woman can easily let it go but some feel they will be less of a woman after.

My family does not speak of feelings or emotions. My uncle says we are not lovey dovey. I don’t think decision is a bad thing, communication is key in all marriage and relationships, so shouldn’t it be in families?

To this day I don’t know why my family turned from me 20 years ago but at this point swallowing it and opening the lines of communication is all I can do. My older brother spoke to me for the first time at my grandmothers funeral last month. I hugged him , told him I missed him and loved him. Small steps my husband says, small steps.

So now every female in our family line has had Breast cancer. The fact that my mother called me to tell me and make sure I had my mammogram almost made me cry.

Silver lining , my mother also has MS and the chemo helps that.

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High Risk


People are just being crazy , buying out toilet paper? I mean, really??? Yup, that is what the virus is like here in Maine. I live in a country area out side a small city, about an hour drive to a major city. As of this being written we had 52 confirmed cases of the Coronavirus in the state. I never went out much so staying home is easy for me but my husband works for the railroad, so he has to work to make sure things people need get to where they are needed.

I am a high Risk with my autoimmune so every time he leaves the house we worry about when he gets home. The railroad is not going to inform the rest of the guys if one of them gets sick even though a lot of the guys have high risk wives, the Union is working on that but I don’t see it happening. The majority of guys are carrying Lysol wipes with them to wipe down the controls before their shifts. We have wipes in every room so he comes in the back door using a Lysol wipe to open and close the doors and goes directly into the bathroom which is right next to the black door, takes off his clothes and puts them in a bag and takes a shower. Then puts the clothes in the laundry.

I feel guilty that my family is suffering more from this because of me, my son can’t go to his girlfriends house, she has lots of siblings and is still going to the gym as I write this. I know he is mad and says she knows what she is doing but, it would only take that one missed spot or something.

I don’t know if it’s enough or if it’s too much? I know I am scared, I know the thought of leaving my husband and my sons all with out me worries and scares me. I have known for over 20 years that this one little pill is what kept me alive. I know at one point I though God was cruel giving me something that I could not just sleep for days with, that I had to get up and face the world long enough to eat and take my pills, which means I’m awake now. This is on a whole new level now though, I could die if I leave my house and come across someone sick or something else that has germs from the sick on it. I try to keep updated with real information and just hope it blows over very soon!

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Pains of change but still the same.


I am full of things to say today! Lol

As the seasons change, so does my pain. In the summer it hurts when it rains, in the winter it hurts as it gets colder, but the pain is still the same, pain. The winter pain spreads in more places, and seems to be lot more often, it’s harder to get past then summer pain. I can get up and move to get rid of summer pain but winter pain just gets a little easier to bare. It’s strange, it’s the same pain, just different.

Humans are entirely different creatures and creations then weather and seasons but they all effect us in many ways. Before getting into medicine my son used to say I was crazy when I said it was the weather making me hurt , now he just says I’m crazy! Lol

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