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Evil Step-Mother???


There is nothing more frustrating than a narcissistic alcoholic who will not admit to anything, take blame for anything, or even try to cooperate.

She just says “you are nothing but an evil step- mother, you don’t know anything and I feel bad for my son that he has to live with you. “

Well, ok. We took the boy, he is 13 and finally opened up to us that she would hit him when she got drunk. We knew she was mentally and emotionally abusive but that’s not enough for the courts to do anything. This last time they moved him to live with us, no visiting unless he wants to, he only has to talk to her once a week for an hour, or twice for half hour, etc, etc.

I have manipulated him, I abuse him, I force him to do this and that, tell him what to say and not say to his mother, it just goes on and on.

My question is how long do we have to deal with her constant abuse and slander before we can say it’s enough?

She literally can convince herself things did not happen or that we did them not her? There is no reasoning with her, there is no casual conversations, everything has to be a fight.

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It’s a big mess


I haven’t been on in a bit but I find the need to vent or ramble, whichever you prefer. I have talked a lot about my husbands ex wife, closet drunk, extreme parental alienation, and of course a narcissist. For 12 years he tried to get her family to do something about her drinking but they didn’t want to deal with it, now she has lost all liver functions. She has been in the hospital for over a week, they are being extremely quiet and secretive about the whole thing and the only reason we even know for sure it’s her liver is from her calling to talk to the son who will come here, and his comments on her eyes and skin being yellow.

Her mother told my husband, this was immediate family only matter. Ummm, let’s see now?, married 12 years • father of her only two kids • I think he is immediate family!!!!

They have told the kids to prepare, but then have been saying stay positive and not telling them that YES she is going to die. I feel they need to be able to say goodbye. I can’t imagine the mental pain they will always feel if they can’t say goodbye.

I really am so angry they are not letting us know if we should be preparing! If we have to take in his kids full time then we need to make a lot of changes!

His older son hates us both because of his mother, they just going to throw him at us knowing it’s the last thing he would want?

Her mothering skills are totally opposite of mine and having to adjust to kids who have not been taught respect, empathy, to pick up after themselves, to do anything for themselves at all is really hard for me. Both are ADHD but I think the older is actually autistic but she refuses to see it or have them re-evaluated although it has been since they first started school since it’s been done. Now they are 8th grade and high school.

So this is one of the many what I am doing , rants to come.

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How much more!


From my own personal experience, someone who was “cheated on” by there husband does not go have an affair with a married man.

In my opinion someone who is a parent, a good parent, can not say someone else’s kid should go with out the essentials to live , if it means anything less for them!

Someone who lies a lot to their kids, who constantly puts down the other parent to the kids, who does everything possible to try to make everyone and anyone think that parent is a horrible person, and gets away with it for years, is not just a pitiful, disgusting, selfish , sorry excuse for a parent, but for a human being!

The faith I have in Maine state department of child support, child abuse, the court system, all of it, has wavered so much lately, to be told the mental and emotional abuse of kids is unimportant because they are 10 and 12, shocked me. They can take care of themselves.

The thought that things will not be seen fairly for each family, his kids deserve it yes, but why does that mean mine doesn’t?

Please someone tell me, that these two boys are not going to be screwed up for life? We can only help them so much only having them for two nights a month, we want so much more time, please let the fathers rights be seen as actually equal as the moms. Joint custody means so much more than what we get, we have to fight and argue for school information, for special event information,

i am so tired. When will the world stop being filled with so many hateful people?Why aren’t the kids the most important thing?

 

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Never , ever, ever!!!


Never, ever, until you are no longer paying, throw away receipts that have to do with child support payments!!!!!!!!!

If your ex fills out papers claiming you have not paid in a year, it is up to you to prove them wrong. You need to have a receipt, direct deposit slip, something to prove at least eight out of twelve for anyone to even consider you are telling the truth. ( guilty till proven innocent) then , the ex can just say, oops, and that’s it. No penalty for lying, no, well maybe we will forget a week of owed payments, nope, nothing! Maybe she decided last minute it looked stupid complaining about three weeks behind.

It has been nothing but vindictive bs with this woman!!! But you all know how that works, when u leave a narcissist and find someone else quickly and become happy, that’s not allowed!!!!

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Burnt out


It is one stupid idea after another, Im trying constantly to prove this and that are wrong, wondering how can they not see the damage they are putting on them?

Since David ant I got together his social path ex wife has done everything possible to turn those two boys against him. She started it the day they were born. The marriage was a sham, two years in he had his own room but she was a closet drunk so he stayed for them. Now he realizes how bad that was and her drinking has caught up to her. The drs said no more drinking at all. She is an alcoholic and coming home to her two kids. They want to help mom of course, so they are told to break any alcohol they see her with. Don’t let her drink. So now these two young boys are given the responsibility of keeping an alcoholic away from alcohol!

If anything goes wrong they will blame themselves! REALLY!!!!

In the same sentence nana says, they are all that matters, if she wants to drink let her it will be her fault not mine and they asked what they could do to help,

Then we have the grandkids stupid mother who has decided her new man is now the kids daddy, my grandson has been out of school for a week and when I try to ask I am told not to call back or she will put a pfa on me! My stepson is in jail so she is doing whatever she wants with those kids and along with her mother who helped her rob me a couple years ago trusting type and her bipolar self who knows what is going on. She has been a big balls of lies and more lies since day one, so many she will totally forget and not have a clue what I am talking about but when I sent her a screenshot of her saying it, I am the bad guy, I am the one whose is denied the kids for months.

Has the world always been filled with so many narcissistic parents?

Is that how the world got like this is it just keeps going generation after generation??

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Home Depot


I know the Home Depot is everywhere and have been reading nothing but bad reviews about the customer service area. My husband and I went in to get a dishwasher on sale and while leaving saw a refrigerator marked half off. We asked why and was told they didn’t have room for it, it had an upgraded model. Ok, makes sense. On coming home the more I thought about it the more I wanted to change the dishwasher color to match the fridge, so we went in on Friday night and called Sunday morning to ask about changing the color. I was sent to three different extensions and no body had a clue! Was finally told the appliance manager would b in Monday and would get back to me. Nope. Hubby called and after being redirected a bunch of times was told, oh, she didn’t work today!. Ok so now it’s Tuesday, no call, hubby calls and again, go through people to find one who says she will personally write a message to the manager and make sure she returns our call first thing. Nope. So now it’s Wednesday and I’m thinking any chance of it being possible is gone now but so irritated by the customer service I’m going to stick with it. Hubby calls asks for a manager and the one he is given to has no idea on any of it , he is the warehouse manager or something??? Hubby kinda blows, they connect him to someone and at this point we are saying, you ARE going to either change the color or just order another one in the color I want and keep the other in store. The woman totally agrees with us, says she didn’t understand any of the run around and she was personally doing it at that moment while on the phone. Ok. Great. Was going to have to wait a couple ex days but, it was done.

I worked in customer service for years, it was my thing, people, resolving issues and making sure the customer is happy. That is supposed to be the foundation in every company, so what’s with Home Depot?

Now I am looking at this fridge and very nervous, I swear it has crumbs in it, it looks used to me, not just a display model. They say they don’t do that, they do not resell, hmmmmmm.

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The Broken Ball: Learning to Let Go (3 min read) — The Millionaire’s Digest


Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Johnny Mack Founder & Owner of: Truth in Fiction Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Successful Living and Writing Writer Imagine a woman standing in the middle of a white room. There is nothing around her; no furnishings or decor, no doors or windows. Just a solitary woman standing in the middle of a […]

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Echo , Daily Post


I feel as if my life is an Echo, I just keep doing the same things over and over. The people in my life, some anyway, are a poison running through my veins sucking the slowly destroying my life , my health, my family.

The true meaning of insane is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I have no choice, some of these people I have to have in my life. It’s not an option.

So as I listen to the words that the actions speak differently, I have to learn to not care….. How do u not care when someone lies to your face, thinks you are stupid enough to believe it, or just doesn’t care if you believe it?

People like this are a toxin in your blood stream. It causes so many problems, mental and physical.

Echo, repetition, echo….my life.

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Finally, my exact thought!!!

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