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Challenge!!!!!


 “Imagine how powerful and how visible our world would change if everyone kept just one more promise each day, week, month, or year.” – Manish

Although I may not know who he is, he has a point.

My Challenge, should you choose to except it, 

Do one thing extra, everyday till Xmas to help someone, keep a promise or just do that thing you said you would do and haven’t done it yet????

I do it, Because I Said I Would……

Now of course I have no way to keep track or check to see who’s actually doing it but, I figure I will post what I did that day, and you can comment with yours!!!! 

So, Is anyone up for the challenge????


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Trying to survive 


I know I really have no close family. I have friends but honestly most are to busy in there own lives to even call unless they need something. I always had my boys but now one is gone and the other hardly comes out of his room. I know I’m depressed and I crave adult companionship. The changes I have been trying to make have been up and down and I keep thinking how I’m not living. I’m just surviving. 

I do what I can to take my mind off stuff. I decided today would just b a create stuff day. I am doing three different projects at once, and I’m still lonely.

My son didn’t come home today. I miss him so much. My other son is confusing. I know he doesn’t know who he is yet but, he does not care when I get upset, he does not care when I ask him to go with me somewhere so I’m not going alone, he says no. I wanted to go to a corn maze we had free tickets for, I have never been but since it was just him and I he said no. I’m glad he’s independent but at the same time he keeps his room so bad. Dirty dishes, empty food containers and getting him to clean is horrible. 

So, is it just another day? No, it’s worse. 

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Forgive for Good


By Dr. Fred Luskin

         The Nine Steps

1. Know exactly how you feel, figure out what about the situation was not ok and then talk to a couple trusted people.

2. Make a commitment to yourself to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and no one else.

3. Forgiving is not saying it is ok to do or treat me like this and it does not mean continuing your relationship with that person. Forgiveness is taking things less personal and being less offended by them by seeking peace and understanding.

4. Recognize you are upset because of how you feel now not how you felt when you were hurt when it happened.

5. When you feel upset, practice stress management to soothe the fight or flight response.

6. Remember, you can only hope for health, love and prosperity. You can work hard to get them but people do not have to give them to you and you can not force it. If you expect them you can easily be disappointed and suffer.

7. Try other ways to reach your goals instead of continuing the way you were hurt.

8. Remember having a life well lived is your best revenge. If you focus on the pain they caused, you give them the power over you. Focus on the love, beauty and kindness you have in your life instead of what you don’t have. 

9. Look at your past and remember your choice to forgive.

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Countries 


​I’m going to italy. To live. I’m watching a show, the way they work, the way they get paid. They have the longest life expectancy. They get paid to honeymoon. They get paid so much differently. The company treats the workers as they deserve to b treated. 2 hr lunches. They say it’s important to make the workers happy. They dropped there mouth when they found out there is no paid vacation time by law. 8 weeks vacation to get married, 5 months paid to raise new baby, wow. It just keeps going. We don’t take enough vacations. The us and Italy produce about the same but we work twice as much!! The Italians have more vacations to enjoy life. They believe people need to be happy!! Wow.

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The French teach children how to eat healthy from day one in school. They get 5 course meals and have 1 hour lunch that is just like a class. The kids looked at pics of us kids school meals and they said those poor kids. The chef at the school spends less but the kids eat way better.
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In Germany they have free collage, they work 36 hours but get paid 40. If a worker feels stressed they get a 3 week stay at a spa. Nobody knows anything about a 2nd or 3rd job. They also believe to have good work then you need happy workers and this is all from a place that makes pencils.Oh my. It’s against the law to contact employees on vacation or after work hours. This is still germany. This show is called Were to invade next, on epix2. I’m awed at seeing how other countries do things so different and the people r so into living life to live!! But they think America is the place to be, not so much anymore. Tons of American students go out of country to get free school. They have plaques outside each house to name the Jewish family that lived there. They believe germany needs to remember there past so they can change the future.
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Finland kids go to school 3 or 4 hours and yet do better. No multiple choice, they just no the answer. Wow. They go about education so much better. The us only cares about the standard testing. None of the schools are different. No paying to go to school, no privite schools. They all go together. The us has made schools a business.
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In Portugal,  using drugs of any kind is not illegal.Human dignity is above all else, that’s what the police in Portugal are taught.

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Norway has the lowest murder rate but they don’t do death penalty and they don’t need guns because the prisoners are treated w something they say they stole from our Constitution,  no cruel or unusual punishment. They do not lower themselves to the criminals to think they have the right to treat anyone cruel. They send them to prison and show them, love. They have less than a 20% rearrest rate!! The hardent prison on the outside looks like ours but inside, wow. They again, don’t use guns. no fights, no rape, no stabbings, nothing. The prisoners loose the freedom but are still human beings. It works. 

I never do anything political. I don’t get into any of these things usually I change the channel but this is all blowing my mind. How has America changed from love to so much hate.

It almost makes me ashamed of how we have become. The US is supposed to be the country of dreams and the country every wants to run to, why?. our crime is high, our majority rate of criminals returning is high, our education is low, our workers are not happy, we have high welfare, no free health care, we have low and middle classes. All of these countries doing these things and got the ideas from us!!!! But we don’t use them. I wish Donald Trump could see this show. We are not the land of opportunity ,  we tell our kids they can be anything they want but they cant. In America it is I, in the other countries it is we, our, always looking at things as equals. 

I am disappointed. 

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Collection or clutter? 


I have lots of, collections…

Baskets, bottles, mickey mouse, little chairs and benches, plants, teapots, little watering cans and little gardening things, books, movies, birdhouses, windchimes, 

That’s just what I can think of from the top ofy head.Now when my house burned in 99 I just started collecting everything! now I’m trying to collect less.My baskets r hung up around my kitchen , the border going around the middle of the room has plants, baskets, watering cans type things in it. I have more to put up on one more wall. Then comes more decisions!!!!

This is my journey back, forward and back again. Kitchen 95%done

Day 4. 

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Transformation! !!!


The Daily Post is somehow stalking me!!! Every one word prompt lately has been very much connected to me and my life!! Lol

Isn’t it amazing how easy it is to associate things with ourselves?

 I am completely transforming my life and myself at this time in my life. It’s hard to do both at the same time but then again,  I am being able to think and spend time by myself as I gut my house. 

Oh, The Daily Post!!! Lol

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The Daily Post Prompts…..


Tiny……………….

We are just tiny specks in a much larger dust pile.  Or

I have only a tiny amount of energy or insperation to clean and declutter today. I started in the kitchen, the best room already, now that I am almost done I am procrastinating on the next challenge. 

I try to remember something I read once in a very old medical book about depression, it said being depressed was just being selfish. Ya, old book. It stated sitting around saying poor me is just being selfish so get up and deal with it. Not word for word but you get the point. I am hoping I will find it as I unclutter and then can be more accurate.  So, I will stop rambling and get up.

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Back , forward and back again


I used to be an extreme Extrovert,  organized and in control. That changed in the last ten years. I was in a very unhappy emotionally and mentally abusive relationship that I just didn’t have the strength to change. I became totally opposite of my former self. In the past 2 years I have started to try to recover. I had decided when it effected my kids in an oblovious way that enough was enough. 

I have gotten better at going out and doing things I need to do on my own again and my kids are doing really good, so now it’s time to start to focus on my house.

These are a couple of shots of the bad spots to give u an idea on how bad it is. I am very ashamed I let it get to this point but now it’s time to get rid of it. First comes overwhemed feeling of drowning. Stress, frustrating feeling of complete how do I do this!!!!

 This is my journey from drowning in clutter and disorganization as an Introvert with times of agoraphobia to being organized,  independent and hopefully able to get back to my love of art and creating things. 

This is Day One.