My husband has an ex who is an alcoholic, has been in and out of the hospital because of it and was told not to drink at all. Of course she started again. We got a call from her family about it , she called her boyfriend drunk and driving, he called them and they called us. After talking to them that’s when his 12 year old said mom was drinking again. He told what he knew and we decided we could not let him go back there. What if they found her dead? Not to mention the drinking and driving!! The trauma would be unreal! He also has a 15 year old who is I really believe autistic, lots of other people have said the same but when it is mentioned to his mother she freaks out and says no he’s not doing that testing and usually stops going to that dr. The 15 year old is all about momma and will not leave her side at all, hates dad and I and just repeats everything momma says. I almost think he would kill himself if he found her dead. She uses his ADHD as a crutch and blames the other son, who is also ADHD for everything so he will end up resenting his brother. We talk about all this with him , he is in all the gifted and talented at school and really is perceptive.
So mom has so far tried, guilt, bribery, “the you don’t love me “, thing , has tried to get him out of our house and into her truck and he just keeps telling her he will come home when she gets help.
She won’t, she denies it all and has convinced herself all she believes is true and we have lied about everything turning her child against her.
His grandmother called him and as usual puts it all on him and his brother. Told him to go home and said to just call if something happens!!! Oh ok so let the kids deal with her drinking, let the kids be the ones to find her dead , what is wrong with these people!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!
Seriously!!! I am just beside myself, as it is I can only try to save one from the trauma and abuse , although the grandmother says they should deal with this together so they can support each other. ? I don’t even know if any of this will hold up in court for temp custody. I don’t know what to do. She won’t admit she has a problem, the only proof we have is from the 12 year old testimony and I just don’t know what to do to help the 15 year old!!!!
Anyone have any advice??????????
Tracey in Maine 